Messaging Kinksters and Getting Results

 

The first move is yours to make if you are hoping to attract kinksters on a BDSM dating site. However, making the first move is not about just sending a message; it’s about sending the right message. Trust and excellent communication are key in any kink community, irrespective of the kind of relationship you are seeking. So, if you are keen on getting real kinksters online, this guide is just right for you.

 

Read on!

 

“Hi” is ordinary

Every conversation has a starting point. Are you thinking of starting with a greeting? Well, that's not so bad. However, just sending the conventional “hi” may not do the trick, likewise, every other single-word first message. Don’t bank too much on your profile picture; it takes more than looks to attract other users.

 

Sending just “hi” makes the receiver think they are just one of your many recipients of the same message on the platform. It may also make them feel that you don’t find them quite imaginative or attractive. It may interest you to know that these dating sites have in place filters that allow users to receive messages from only certain age groups, genders, or with a profile pic. Likewise, they can set these filters to block every one-word or tw0-word messages. In such cases, you would only be wasting your time.

 

A clear reason increases your chances

When your first message carries no clear reason on why you are contacting the receiver in the first instance, you reduce your chances of getting a favorable reply. Be clear about why you are getting in touch – perhaps you got fascinated by their profile picture while browsing their profile or got stuck by their contribution in one of the forums. Such reasons put you in better positions to win your receiver over, rather than telling them that they interest you because of their big boobs.

 

Stylishly ask questions

You are seeking a response; that’s your reason for getting in touch in the first place. So, to increase your chances of getting a good response, include a question in your message. However, while at it, ask only the right questions. Feel free to ask; what types of kinks is your receiver into, what they would like to know about you or discuss with you. 

 

Avoid questions like checking the realness of their boobs or asking for nude pictures. Such requests put off the other person almost immediately. For best results, stick to open-ended questions – it is an indication that you want to know more about the person rather than seeking fulfillment for your fetish and kinks cravings.

 

Don’t make it all about yourself

While you are all out to get someone who shares the same kink or fetish interests with you, you should attach less importance to yourself and more to the recipient. Do not make the message all about yourself or what you need. 

 

For instance, you can say;

We share similar interests in feet worshipping, and seeing that you are in my area, I am curious to know if you would be interested in getting your feet worshipped the way you want.

 

On the other hand, do not send a message like;

 

I am a feet worshipper, and I am here fantasizing about licking your toes while you smoosh them in my face. My favorites are the very big toes; I can go hours sucking on them non-stop. I will love to do that to you too, now, send me your address.

 

 

Be mindful of safety

Leave out all personal details in your message to a fellow kinkster, and do not demand theirs. Doing this puts the recipient off. You can arrange to meet in somewhere public, for first-timers. If you are looking to indulge, then the local dungeons and sex clubs may be a good place to start. These places are safe for you to indulge in your kinks. You must prioritize personal safety, particularly when it comes to Fetish, considering the complete transfer of control involved.

 

Visualize them around you

After writing your first message, visualize the recipient close to you and confirm that what you have written is what you can say to them physically. If it is not, then the message is not worth it. Doing this will also let you know your chance of getting a response. Take a last good look at your message and ensure that they meet the basic rules described above.

 

Good luck!


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