What are Submissive rules?

 

Submissiveness goes beyond just the Dominant taking care of a submissive; in reality, the submissives also have obligations to perform on the Dom as well, according to the slave rules.  Here are some slave rules that guide the way you take care of your Dom.

 

It is important to know that spoiling and pampering the Doms brings pleasure to the submissives, along with immense satisfaction and peace. These are the main reasons they engage in submissiveness in the first instance. However, these reasons also constitute part of the several slave rules.

 

All the seemingly unusual orders you get from your dominant, perhaps with regards to what to wear, eat, or when to sleep, are their ways of taking care of you. You are expected to return these favors. While it is possible that you are not sure how to proceed, feel free to ask. Ask your dorm how you can serve them and watch them teach you how to please them. 

 

Taking care of your Dom can come in various forms, from cooking their favorite meals regularly or reminding them of important appointments. All these show how much the submissive care for the Dom, and doing them makes him happy.

 

Slave rules on communication

 

While you might want to think that Doms are mind-readers, they are not. Yes, most Doms are very observant and learn easily, and with time, they get to know more about their submissives, even knowing them better than themselves. Regardless of this, you must be ready to communicate with them clearly and frequently, whether you need to show them that you are happy, sad, afraid, ill, and so on.

 

Assuming that your Dom already knows how you feel can be detrimental to kink relationships. Even if you have granted them the power to make the decisions, you still must speak up whenever you have to, without fears or getting intimidated. If you don’t like a certain kink, tell them. You feel bad that they missed a date with you or aren’t giving you enough attention? Feel free to speak up. However, while at it, apply maturity and be expressive, rather than attacking them. Always note that mutual respect remains important at all times.

 

Slave rules on service and submission

 

The first responsibility of the submissive is to be submissive. Funny, right? However, it is the truth. A submissive must give the total power to the Dom to have a specific level of control on our body and how we behave. Although there are differences, depending on the partners involved as well as the parenting and housework responsibilities, the Dom remains the decision-maker in most of the processes. And this is usually one of the many slave rules.

 

You are free to use a “safe word” to depict that your reservation towards a certain directive by your Dom, perhaps due to safety fears. However, this doesn’t translate to refusing to do something you already consented to do. This is an action that contradicts the slave rules, including lying and threatening to quit because the decisions are not favoring you.

 

Note that your consent remains yours and you can withdraw it whenever you wish to. All you just need to say is “I don’t think I want to continue with these.” However, you are not fit to be called a submissive when you refuse to do the things you initially consented to – refusing to serve or be submissive to your Dom after negotiating to be in the first instance is wrong. 

 

Slave rules on honesty with expectations and needs

 

If you feel you are not too comfortable with your role as a submissive, then you should talk to your dominant. Be ready for the worst outcomes in such situations, perhaps a painful breakup, but it is also the only way of bringing in balance and dynamism to the relationship. You both should be ready to take up your responsibilities and perform them with 100% commitment and free will.

 

You are responsible for yourself and how you feel for your Dom. Likewise, you should be open to discussions about your expectations and your needs whenever you feel they are changing or evolving. Note that kink relationships are susceptible to changes over time, the same with the set slave rules. This is why you cannot bank on your Dom to be a mind reader. The best way to communicate your feelings is to talk.

 

In some unusual cases, the decisions and responsibilities appear not to exist for a while. In such brief moments, the submissive is expected to keep up the momentum by enduring whatever they get from the dorm – either pleasure or pain. However, most of the time, the submissive holds responsibilities that are as important as the dom’s, although in forms different from those of the dom.


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