Safety and facesitting

There are risks associated with facesitting, usually more than what is obtainable in other BDSM scenes. The first source of concern is breath control and coking. Thus, it is essential that the submissive has a means of indicating discomfort whenever he feels one. Pinching or tapping out are good options here. Trust is another thing to be clear about, which usually involves serious pre-negotiation.

Getting on top should not be rushed. As fascinating as it may seem or sound, do not forcefully sit on your beloved’s face especially if both are just starting out on facesitting. You can decide to take it a bit further by trying out other methods of restraints, of course in addition to the pussy power. In that case, you can tie the feet or hands. However, you both must come up with a clear distress signal. For example, banging on the floor or bed three times consecutively could mean the need for a break. Alternatively, you can get a bunch of keys and ask the submissive to drop them whenever they feel like stopping.

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The effects of the Queening Chair

The queening chair or queening stool offers more comfort for the dom while reducing the risks that come with facesitting. The chair can be a smother box sometimes, packed with certain furniture that facilitates facesitting. You can have queening chairs in different designs, including the dungeon-like gothic and dark stools, or better still, a colorful plastic stool that appears like a makeup stool to visitors.

You can also go for certain designs with wedge shapes or suspended headrests. These are usually adjustable and thus offer more comfort to both parties. If you don’t have a large budget, Etsy is one place to buy building plans for a queening chair, which you can follow to build yours.

Finally, facesitting is a kink that can come in the form of complete submission or intense dominance. Alternatively, it could be just for the fun of it. The form it takes with you depends on your preferences and that of your partner.