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04-22-2023 - Written by Jett Oxy - Follow on medium
SUBMISSIVE POSITIONS IN 15 UNIQUE PICTURES
New to BDSM and just embracing your submissive kink? Great job! When it comes to one's sex life, nothing beats self-awareness.
There are different ways to show submission to your dominant partner. However, getting into the right BDSM submissive positions in the bedroom is the icing on the cake.
This article will teach you everything about BDSM sub positions and show you 15 BDSM sub positions you can never go wrong with.
WHAT ARE BDSM SUB POSITIONS?
Submissive positions originated from ”Chronicles of Gor”, a series of science fiction novels written by John Norman. The Gorean life, although not exactly a BDSM practice, is part of the kinky culture.
People who practice a Gorean lifestyle are called Goreans. They engage in master/ slave relationships and usually have 24/7 TPE (total power exchange) relationships.
WHY SHOULD SUBMISSIVES LEARN APPROPRIATE POSITIONS?
Learning ideal BDSM sub positions is not just some irrelevant part of the practice. It is intentional and has its benefits.
One purpose of learning BDSM sub positions is that it helps the submissive know what they must do just from the utterance of a single command or directive.
Learning BDSM sub positions also eradicates ambiguity and enables easy compliance. When the sub learns simple behavior positions, the dominant partner doesn’t have to take time explaining what they mean or desire.
Getting familiar with BDSM sub positions also ensure that the power dynamic in a BDSM relationship is upheld. Once the dominant asks to get into a particular position, the sub gets into a mood where they are compelled to recognize and respect their Dom's authority.
15 IDEAL BDSM SUBMISSIVE POSITIONS
Take a look at how to get into 15 top BDSM sub positions;
1. WAIT
This position is standing in a non-slouched manner with the head upright, slightly apart feet, and hands at the back with one palm in the other. In this position, a submissive is waiting for an order or to be relieved from the position.
2. ATTENTION
This position entails standing alert and stiff bodied. Feet together, straight legs, eyes locked forward and head kept still. Then the hands straight and relaxed by the sides, touching the hips.
3. WALL
Here, the submissive faces the wall while in the standing position. The feet should be slightly apart with the palms on the wall to brace against leaning slightly forward.
Typically this is a punishment position. The submissive may even be instructed to remove any clothes beforehand if corporal punishment is going to be administered. You may incorporate easy-to-use door jam cuffs for extra spice.
4. AT YOUR SERVICE
This position enables the submissive to attend to the dominant partner. Here, sub stands with legs slightly apart with crossed hands in front of their body. One palm should be placed over the other with arms extended downwards.
A submissive partner usually takes this position to receive an order to be of personal service to the mistress.
5. NADU
This BDSM sub position involves the sub keeping their back straight and head up. They kneel back on heels, spread their legs wide apart and place their hands on their thighs. You may decide to put your palms up to indicate more helplessness and a wish to please. Dom partners may also incorporate toys for sensation play and for correcting the slave’s position.
6. COLLAR ME
Here, the sub offers their neck for the dominant partner to place a collar. Kneel with your back straight, legs spread wide apart. Then lift your hair with your hands. The dominant partner could add some spicy activity after collaring the slave. You could order your slave to sit on a suction cup dildo.
7. MODEST KNEEL
Similar to the 'Collar me' position, all you have to do is to kneel, keep your back straight and your legs wide apart. Then place your hands between your legs.
8. KNEEL/ TOWER SLAVE POSITION
This position is similar to the Nadu position. The only difference is that your legs should be together and your palms down. This position shows that the slave is waiting to serve.
9. HUMBLE
Here, the submissive touches the ground with their forehead in the crouched kneel position. Then stretch out their slightly crossed arms in front of the head.
You look at the ground and are not permitted a view as a symbol of your humility. It could either be a punishment position or an apology position.
Take a look at how Shambawk33 on Reddit spices up this position with their partner;
"Hands tend to be optional. In the "Humble" position I like hands over head but sometimes tell my sub to pull open butt-cheeks or put arms between legs to grasp ankles. Watching hands twitch as I play with their bottom gives me feedback."
10. TABLE/ SHE-SLEEN POSITION
In this position, the submissive is expected to put their back high in the air for either viewing, sexual use or impact play. Sometimes the use of hands is forbidden. This position makes the sub feel super vulnerable.
11.Ready to Please
You are on your knees leaning forward with your hands palm down between knees. The knees are spread to accomodate crossed wrists in between. The mouth is fully open, an open mouth harness can be used for comfort and added BDSM aspect.
The position shows that you are ready to please and waiting to be used.
12. INSPECTION
This can also be described as ‘display’. However, whatever word is picked by the dominant partner, the intent is for the submissive to take the position so they can be inspected.
The position is standing with feet slightly apart and the hands placed behind the head. It allows the dom to visually observe all the body parts of the sub including their stance or attire and consequently, allows for easy handling.
13. STOOL/ OBEISANCE POSITION
Many variations exist – this is just one of them. The submissive is humbly waiting for another command.
14. SEX DOLL/ CAPTURE POSITION
This position shows the sub encourages sexual use by the dom. It is the position of a captured slave.
15. FLOOR
This involves lying on the floor with your face down and feet crossed at the ankles. The arms are outstretched to create a truly subordinate position.
Your dominant can step over you or keep you in their proper place. This position is often continued by crawling to the dominant.
Wisdoms Mentor on Quora names an extra submissive position for submissive males.
'...The prime one is “Queening", when the woman sits on the man's face. The other is any in which the man's mouth is on her vulva/clitoris. Also almost any “outercourse” position in which the man is denied penetration…'
Safety Tips
- Communication is Key: Encourage ongoing verbal or non-verbal communication throughout the scene. The submissive should feel comfortable expressing discomfort or pain, using a safeword if necessary.
- Check for Circulation: In positions that involve kneeling or restraint, remind readers to frequently check for signs of restricted blood flow, such as numbness or discoloration in the hands, feet, or limbs.
- Support for Strain: Suggest using pillows or padding under joints (knees, wrists) to reduce pressure and avoid strain, especially in prolonged or more intense positions.
- Gradual Adjustment: Advise easing into complex or demanding positions slowly, allowing the submissive’s body to adjust to avoid cramps or muscle strain.
- Flexibility & Limits: Mention that not all positions are suitable for everyone. Know your partner’s flexibility limits to avoid injury. Modify positions when necessary to ensure comfort and safety.
- Breathing Room: In any position that involves restraints, ensure the submissive can breathe comfortably, particularly in face-down or folded positions.
Aftercare
- Physical Comfort: After a scene involving intense submissive positions, help your partner stretch or relax their muscles. Provide water and a warm blanket to soothe their body.
- Emotional Support: Submissive positioning can create vulnerability. Aftercare should include emotional reassurance, such as gentle touch, affirming words, or just holding them close.
- Skin Care: If restraints or prolonged pressure has marked the skin, suggest applying lotion or using cool compresses to soothe any irritated areas.
- Check-In: Have a post-scene discussion about how the submissive felt in each position, what worked, and any discomfort they may have experienced.
FAQS
● DO I HAVE TO LEARN ALL THE BDSM SUB POSITIONS?
It is a matter of choice. If you can, great. If you can't, it is okay as well. You may tell your Dom partner to master about three or four that they can easily order you to do. Keep in mind that they should be positions that are easy for you to take.
CONCLUSION
Mastering BDSM sub positions add all the color and spice to your role play. You can also get creative and look for other ways to spice it up such as going totally naked or adding additional sex toys. The most important thing is that safety and consent are not missing. Good luck and have fun.
Article Written by Jett Oxy for oxy-shop.com.
Jett is the owner of Oxy-shop.com, a BDSM insider, a sex educator and writer.
"I always try to explore the confines of the BDSM world and bring valuable insights for new comers joining our adventure"
Phd in related field, father and business owner, Jett Oxy brings you stories and advices for educational and entertainment purposes.