WHAT IS A FOOT FETISH EXACTLY?

After all those years of daily porn, you might be thinking that foot fetish is only for the freaks of this word (you, reader). It is actually extremely common and quite simple. As sex expert Coleen Singer defines it, “Foot fetishism, also referred to as podophilia, is a heightened and specific sexual interest in feet and/or footwear. It is the most common form of sexual fetishism for otherwise non-sexual objects or body parts, and is more prevalent in men than women.”Foot fetish is also called foot partialism or podophilia. We are learning lots today folks. 

Baywatch”-famed actress and home self-made porn star Pamela Anderson calls feet the “sexiest part of a woman’s body,” while Playboy model (and mother) Brooke Burke relates, “Toe sucking is just so good.” Celebrities continue to endorse foot fetishism as well, from these ladies to Enrique Iglesias and Ludacris. If they love it, you should too.

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People with a foot fetish might get more aroused and intense by bare feet than with a naked body infront them. A foot fetishist will find attraction on some particular points such as the shape and size of feet and toes (e.g. long toes, short toes, painted toenails, high arches, soles etc.), jewelry (e.g. toe ring, anklets, etc.), treatments (such as massaging, washing partner's feet or painting partner's toenails), state of dress (barefoot, flip flops, sandals, high heels, , socked feet, etc.), foot odour and/or sensory interaction (e.g. rubbing the foot, tickling, smelling, kissing, biting, licking, sucking toes, rubbing genitals on foot, etc.)

Once both partners accept foot fetish into their relationship, they incorporate foot play into their sex life routine. It is time for some erotic foot massage and non stop footjobs. 

Foot worship is part of this kink and defines a submissive at the feet of a Mistress, literally speaking. This fetish can involve anything that touches the feet, like shoes, socks, or dressing the feet up or binding them. Source: MarieClaire

The Desire To Be Submissive 

Many of our readers might recognize themselves here.Dr. Dawn Michael, a clinical sexologist explains:“For men with a foot fetish it may be the only thing that gets them aroused — either touching the feet, fantasizing about it or talking about it. Some men have said that they want to be submissive to a woman's foot, lay at her feet, rub, touch and smell her feet and toes, and lick them,” 

The Disgust Of Feet 

“Another theory suggests that your foot fetish may have more to do with disgust. As arousal levels heighten, your disgust instincts become less sharp and you no longer respond as strongly to disgust. This altered state of perception allows you to engage sexually with objects that you might normally find off-putting — like feet,” O’Reilly explains.“The taboo element of this theory falls in line with dominant cultural messages about sex: it is naughty, dirty and shameful; a foot fetish may be one outlet through which we reconcile the conflict between our experience of sexual pleasure and negative sexual messages.”This theory explains why you might get laid sometimes hahaha. 

There Might Not Be A Specific CauseAnd lastly

 — all experts agree that having a foot fetish might just be part of who you are and part of what makes you tick, with no special reasoning behind it. As O’Reilly points out, one of the most beloved children’s fairy tales revolves around an obsession with a single slipper that fits on the most perfect foot: Cinderella. “The foot has a long history of romantic/erotic associations. The Cinderella story refers to her perfect, small foot fitting into the glass slipper. Several cultures have histories of emphasizing foot size as a sign of feminine/masculine attraction,” she says.

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Though it is the most common fetish, there are still some unjust misconceptions and stigmas around being attracted to that part of the body. But breaking through those stereotypes is important — that way more people will feel empowered to be exactly who they are and have the type of sexual experience they justly desire. As Singer notes, a person with a foot fetish isn’t classified as "perverted" — instead, it is that they have a preference like anyone else that happens to be less common than the traditional choices. “As with any fetish, it is tied to a trigger that sparks the libido, just like any other sort of ‘non-fetish’ sexual activity, like having your erogenous zones stimulated by your partner,” she says. 

Another myth that Michael points out is that a foot fetish is usually not temporary and isn’t something you outgrow: “As with most fetishes, once locked in the brain it becomes the stimulus for arousal,” she explains. Singer also adds that, especially with a fetish that is traditionally ingrained in your mind and body at a young age, a foot fetish is likely to stick with you for life. “People with sexual fetishes, including feet and shoes, often remember the fetish as beginning very early in their lives. In the case of the foot fetish, this can often be traced to an event or situation in which the seeing or touching of feet or shoes became paired with sexual arousal. Although there is very little consensus by psychologists and psychiatrists of the exact ‘wiring’ of this or any other sexual fetish, it is a powerful and often lifelong phenomenon,” she explains.

The first and most important step is to come to terms, as a person, with your fetish. This might mean talking to a therapist or interacting with other men who have a foot fetish to become more comfortable with your sexual desires. “Own it. Do not apologize. Do not be embarrassed. You are perfectly normal. You shouldn’t have to apologize for your natural inclinations and desires,” O’Reilly says.” And get online! There are supportive communities and sharing sites designed just for you. Indulge and let your mind wander.” 

Another step? Being very selective about who you date. As O’Reilly explains, “Sexual compatibility is about being similarly open-minded; it is not about having the same desires, but respecting one another’s desires. If your partner judges you and isn’t willing to work through this judgment (this is their job — not yours), you are not sexually compatible.”That being said, you must be respectful of your partner’s boundaries and be willing to take it slow. It is going to be a learning process, especially if she’s never been with someone who shares your same fantasies. “If she enjoys you worshiping her feet, you are all set. If she is reluctant, you may need to take a gentler and more long term approach. If you have a very strong foot fetish, this is something that will need to be explored and negotiated early on in the relationship and it may just become the deal breaker. If you do not see eye to eye on this, it will result in you going ‘toe-to-toe’ with each other in the relationship, so you may need to move on,” she says.Another fun way — that will also be great for you! — is to shower her with gifts. And for you that isn’t lacy, seductive lingerie or a nightgown… but it is shoes. Or a pedicure. “Give her a treat from time to time, in this regard, like new shoes! For many women, shoe collecting is the ultimate porn for women and she will probably appreciate your thoughtfulness,” Singer says.The biggest goal is to make the foot fetish seem less all-encompassing and more a part of a healthy sex life that turns you on, while also focusing on all of the things that get her going, too. After all, your intimate relationship should never be one-sided. “Work it into the sex play so that it is fun and do not make it the object of the sexual encounter. This can be worked into foreplay by kissing from top to bottom, ending with the foot. You can also massage the foot with warm soy oil and giving her a foot massage, which is great for her and part of the foreplay for you,” Michael explains. “If you are into submissive foot play, be her pet for the day, laying at her feet, offering her massages, smelling, licking, touching — and if she wants to, have her step on you from time to time. I would recommend this type of play with a woman you know and are comfortable exploring different ideas with.”