Historically, male submissiveness can be traced back to various cultures and periods. Ancient civilizations like Greece and Rome had hierarchies where male slaves served their mistresses, and this dynamic was not just about servitude but also eroticism and power play. The likes of Marquis de Sade's writings in the 18th century further shed light on the erotic charge of male submission. Similarly, in more modern literature, submissive males are featured, hence, these desires are not as contemporary as they may seem. They have merely evolved and found new expressions in today's society.

Male submissiveness is multifaceted and varies considerably from individual to individual. For some, it is about relinquishing control, for others, it is an erotic fantasy, and for many, it is a deep-seated part of their identity.

For instance, see how Steve on Quora describes the psychology of his submissive side;

You will have to clarify if you mean a sexually submissive male or a man who is submissive in all areas of his life. I am an alpha male to a fault. Yet I like to be sexually submissive as a respite to the stress and decision-making that my job entails. I was also suffering from depression which my Psychologist said often attracted people to BDSM since BDSM demanded all of your attention preventing you from thinking about the things that stress you or make you depressed. So while I enjoy being sexually submissive, I am very alpha in real life.

Mozared on Reddit also speaks on this;

"...In that one moment, I had this 'grand realization' that yes, most of my 'submissiveness' did indeed come from the fact that I spent the better deal of my life with an abusive partner who never showed me any love, and in the intimate act of sex what I desperately wanted and needed was someone to 'take care of me' and show me unrequited love without me being required to take care of her. It's not that I don't want to take care of a person I love, but there was this clear need to for once, not have to put in effort for them. To just let go of all control and surrender to a love I've never felt…"

The point is, at its core, submissiveness often revolves around the need to escape the pressures of daily life, to be nurtured, to relinquish control, or to serve and please. 

Take a look at a few lenses you can view male submissiveness;  

Modern society often expects men to shoulder responsibilities, and be the decision-makers, providers, and protectors. These responsibilities can be exhausting. Submissiveness offers an escape, a space where they are free from these burdens, and set aside the mask of perpetual strength, even if just temporarily.

Sexuality is a spectrum, and for many submissive men, the thrill of submission, whether through bondage, BDSM, or role-playing can be a turn-on. It can be intertwined with various fetishes and kinks, from bondage to role play. The act of being controlled, restrained, or even humiliated carries a potent erotic charge for some, offering an irresistible sensation of both pleasure and pain.

The act of submissiveness gives room for submissive males to show vulnerability, an emotion they are often discouraged from displaying. In a submissive role, they can express emotions, desires, and fears without judgment. The result of such vulnerability is a heightened intimacy between both partners.

For some submissive men, their practice of submissiveness has nothing to do with eroticism. Rather, the act of serving and pleasing a dominant partner brings immense satisfaction. This could be through acts of service, gifts, or adhering to the dominant's wishes. Every act of service becomes a testament to their devotion.

Chastity, particularly in submissive men, is a distinct practice of male submissiveness. It revolves around the idea of relinquishing sexual control to a dominant partner. By doing so, the submissive male experiences a mix of trust, anticipation, and for many, arousal. Handing over such intimate control deepens the vulnerability and connection between partners.

Although erotic, chastity also ties into the other aspects of submissiveness mentioned earlier. It can act as a counter-narrative to the societal pressures of performance and expectations that men face. This is because chastity offers an escape from the hypersexualized expectations placed on men, allowing for vulnerability and the joy of pleasing the dominant women or partners by adhering to their wishes on when they can have an erection or orgasm.

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One of the best parts of male submissiveness is its effort in breaking stereotypes. Exploring male submissiveness often involves confronting and breaking deeply ingrained societal stereotypes. The notion that "real men" can't be submissive is rooted in age-old gender roles that no longer serve a diverse and progressive society. Embracing one's submissive side does not diminish masculinity; in fact, it adds depth to the multifaceted nature of the male identity.

Like all kinks and sexual practices, male submissiveness and its various manifestations, including chastity, must be practiced with informed consent, trust, and open communication. It is crucial to set boundaries, understand limits, and regularly check in with your partner. The importance of setting boundaries, establishing safe words, understandinghard and soft limits, and ensuring both partners are on the same page can not be overemphasized.

Male submissiveness offers a nuanced perspective on masculinity, intimacy, and pleasure. Whether expressed through chastity or other submissive practices, it represents a more effective move toward recognizing and understanding the multiplicity of male desires and identities. In a world where we are gradually shedding rigid norms and embracing diversity, it is time to celebrate the myriad ways in which men, and indeed all individuals, choose to express themselves, both in and out of the bedroom. In doing so, we create a space for men to truly be themselves and take a step towards a world that is more accepting and understanding of diversity.

A lot of people in the BDSM community believe that most dominant women are abusive. This could be traced to the fact that there are only a few women who are the doms in their relationship.