Ultimate Female Chastity Guide: How to Embrace the Lifestyle - Oxy-shop

05-06-2019 - Written by Jett Oxy - Follow on medium 


All You Need To Know About Female Chastity Belts.


The female chastity device is one of the most exciting BDSM devices out there. In this piece, we will be taking a close look at this excellent device – how to use it to get maximum pleasure and staying safe while at it.

What is a female chastity belt?

Female Chastity Belt


The modern version is a simple bet equipped with a U-shaped band that is not only adjustable but also lockable, and which is worn firmly around the waist, covering the anus and the genitals. 


What the female chastity device does is to ensure that the wearer doesn’t experience intercourse or attempt to have a sexual release by masturbating. 


Depending on the preferences of the user, a female chastity device can be worn for a few hours, months, or even years. However, in cases of long duration, there must be regular hygiene and must be removed safely.


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Why wear a female chastity Belt?

  • Control– Wearing one puts the other partner in total control over the behaviors and actions of the person wearing them. So, the wearer basically tries to seek sexual expression or release against their terms.

  • Teasing and Refusal– Teasing comes with an amazing sexual tension that keeps both parties on edge.

  • Torture and Humiliation – Some people get turned on with erotic torture and humiliation.

  • Aesthetic Turn-on – For some people, merely seeing their partner in this device turns them on in a special way.

  • BDSM Games – People interested in making their sex life more interesting will find a lot of fun chastity games to try their hands on.

Here are some of the reasons kinksters wear this device;

The Ancient Illusion with Chastity Belts

There was evidence from the past that corroborates the history of the female chastity belt. 


Ancient illustrations, movie costumes, and artifacts have suggested the use of metal belts that come with small holes, which is usually opened when it is time to use the bathroom. However, the husbands of the females wearing such a belt usually keep the key, especially whenever they are around.


While these are just mere suggestions, chances are the ancient chastity belts never existed. Most contemporary researchers believe these references are most likely due to reading wrong meanings to text, or in satirical and allegorical contexts, and that most of the ancient samples available in museums currently were produced later on – perhaps in the 19th century.


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Considering that the use of a female chastity device is a deviation from the sexual norms, it is not surprising that it is compared to other ancient behaviors like the use of torture devices for excessive control, thus making people believe it more easily.


Female Chastity Belt

Female Chastity Devices and the Contemporary Stigma

Female Chastity Belt


Most women folks will vehemently turn down the offer to wear one of these devices, especially when you think about the abuse and oppression women have gone or are going through. Despite this, anybody wearing the device has the fundamental right to say “no” at any time. 


BDSM is clearly different from abuse. Hence, if the arrangement is forcing the wearer to put on the device against their will or out of jealousy, then it has defeated the intents of BDSM.

Obeying the SSSC Rule

The SSSC rule is valid in and beyond the chastity world. With four cardinal points- Safe, Sane, Sober, and Consensual, this rule is one that must be well understood by all practitioners of BDSM, with or without interest in chastity play. When it comes to chastity devices, the importance of safety cannot be overemphasized. You can never be too careful with your chastity device lock. It is recommended that you keep an extra key for both the wearer and the other partner. This comes really handy during emergencies.

It is also essential that both parties know what to do to get out of the belt if the key is nowhere to be found. This involves the use of certain tools, which must always be close by.The use of disposable locks is a better and safer alternative for permanent padlocks. The former is way easier to operate and takes little effort to open.

Wearing a female chastity device

Now that you are ready to wear one, you should start by finding the right belt for yourself. To find the right belt, you must decide on the intended use – casual play, show, or hardcore. Once you are clear about this, proceed to collect accurate measurements, so that you don’t end up with a belt that does not fit you comfortably. Lastly, look out for sellers that offer quality and safe materials (Like us).Feel free to choose from a wide range of design options and accessories, including;

Female Chastity Belt
  • Extra leg or waist straps

  • Functional or decorative chains

  • Removable and adjustable belt straps and sections

  • Butt plugs or vaginal dildos

  • Timer options and other advanced locking techniques

How do you measure for your chastity belt?

It is easier for females to come up with accurate belt measurements compared to men. In either case, use a “soft” measuring tape to take the following measurements;

  • Waist – the best place to have your cages seated is the waistline. You have your waistline either in between the bottom of your hip bone and rib cage or on the same level as your belly button.

  • Hips – You can either sit around your hips or add an extra loop for additional security or fashion.In the case of the latter, measure the circumference of your hip bone, the same way you would measure that of your waist.

  • Crotch Length – you need to decide on either a hip or waist belt. In either case, pick a normal belt and wear it, putting it firmly at that level. Now, pick up your measuring tape, and with one end held up on the frontal-middle part of the belt, run the tape through your crotch, bringing it back to the exact spot behind the belt.

  • Front Crotch – Place the tap in the same place as in the case of Crotch Length, then run it down to your vagina.

  • Backside – Start from the place you ended when measuring the crotch length, and run the measuring tape through to your bum hole or anus.

You may have to take more measurements than listed above, depending on the design you are looking at. The maker of the belt will always give you their required measurements and how you can take them.

Safety of materials is paramount

For both the belt and accessories, the safest and cleanest material you can use is medical grade titanium or stainless steel. Alternatively, you can go with silicone, polycarbonate, or ABS plastic. Do not use materials like TPE/TPR rubber or leather. While they might look appealing to you, the porosity and inability to sterilize them make them unsuitable.


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Start with cheap models

If you are trying out chastity play as a newbie, the best is to start with a cheaper model from Oxy-shop


You will get the same level of fitness as the expensive models. However, the advantage here is that if you ever decided against chastity play, you wouldn’t be losing so much. But if you find it great, you can adjust your measurements to ensure that your next belt fits more comfortably and gives you more fun.

Female Chastity Belt

Maintaining your belt

Ease of cleaning depends on the type of belts. However, the more accessories, the more difficult it is to have a thorough cleaning. Using a chastity belt means they will come in contact with bodily fluids and sweat. Thus, you need to adopt a two-stage caring system - cleaning and drying.

Everyday Cleaning

Daily cleaning of your chastity device is ideal, the same way you clean yourself every day. However, it is not compulsory that you have it locked on you every day – you and your partner can decide this. 


Talking about cleaning, use warm water and soap to clean thoroughly (avoid your vagina while at it). Use a soft cloth and water to clean your vagina instead. The next step after cleaning is drying. Ensure that the belt and its accessories are thoroughly dried after each cleaning. A hair dryer or fan will do a good job to dry up those places that cannot be easily accessed.A poorly cleaned belt will cause yeast and bladder infections to the user. 

So, always make sure that you get your belt cleaned of the moisture, sweat, and the fluids from your crotch.


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Weekly Cleaning

A thorough inspection of your belt is recommended once a week. This will require taking off the belt and giving it a proper cleaning, focusing on the tight areas. You may soak the hardware in a disinfectant, after which you spread it under the sun to kill all the germs.


 After this, inspect the wearer and watch out for irritation, too much chaffing, and any unusual issues. Only wear the belt again when it is completely dry.

When do you remove your chastity belt?

Contrary to the popular belief that the only time to remove your belt is when you want to have sex, the belt is best used in adherence to the SSSC rule, i.e., Safe, Sane, Sober and Consensual rules. The belt would break the first rule – Safety - if it stays on you for a week without cleaning.This lack of hygiene may lead to serious infections and other health issues. There is no rationality behind forcing a sub to have her belt on for weeks without removing or cleaning it. On the contrary, they should be allowed to remove the belt and clean it thoroughly as and when due.


While you may find comments around saying some subs wore the belt constantly and had no issues, ensure that you always abide by sanitary behaviors with your chastity belt. This keeps you safe from health complications and makes your belt last longer. 

Female Chastity Belt
Female Chastity Belt


There are cases where the dom and the sub share contrasting views on how long the belt should be on. Fortunately, this can be fixed. For a dom that believes that a belt should not be removed except when it is time to have sex or rewards, both parties should schedule their weekly cleaning on the same day these events will occur. Even if none of the two events is happening in the week, a one- or two-hour sanitation complete sanitation must be scheduled within the week. 


For a dom that will not be around for a long time, it is okay to organize a thorough cleaning once in seven days, over Skype or similar media. This keeps the dom updated and involved, and the sub safe. Lastly, trust is an essential ingredient when it comes to the use of a chastity belt. Doms shouldn’t have a problem with trusting their partners to carry out thorough and necessary cleanings on their own, especially when they are not around.

Getting the best out of your belt

There is a considerable amount of flexibility that comes with the use of a chastity belt. However, while at it, ensure that you abide by the SSSC rule. Popular ways of using your belt include;

  • Wearing it under the clothes for an evening outing

  • Using it as an instrument for submissive training; the dom asks the sub to remove it as a form of reward or leave it on for longer as a form of punishment

  • You can implement them into sex games

  • When worn properly, it turns the other partner on and makes them more sexually responsive

  • The denial part of the chastity belt can amplify the effect and appreciation of orgasms

Article Written by Jett Oxy for oxy-shop.com. 

Jett is the owner of Oxy-shop.com, a BDSM insider, a sex educator and writer. 

"I always try to explore the confines of the BDSM world and bring valuable insights for new comers joining our adventure" 

Phd in related field, father and business owner, Jett Oxy brings you stories and advices  for educational and entertainment purposes. 


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