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24-02-2019 - Written by Jett Oxy - Follow on medium 


From Spanking to Human Furniture; All You Need To Know About BDSM-Punishments

 

BSDM offers a wide rang of pleasurable facets and the biggest punishment is to not do it at all! Amongst others, bondage, SM, CBT & Co are the punishments coming to mind. We will see that there is more to be discovered for the dominant and the submissive, living their lifestyles to the fullest.


How come some people want to be punished?


Basically, the joy of BSDM comes from a partner (the sub) being submissive to the dominant partner (the dom). Both genders are free to play any of the two roles!

Depending on your choice – perhaps due to experience or inclinations of the two partners - the impressive power of lust can be exercised within the four walls of a room or taken to the outside world in an erotic venue. Regardless of where the dom demands for submissiveness from his/her sub; once the sub fails the job, he/she has to face punishment! Source: Wikipedia & BDSMWiki

 

Asides from some fundamental rules and common sense which will also be explained herein; the fantasy of punishment has no particular restrictions. 

 

Every kind of punishment - from tortures at home to the insertion of sex toys - can be employed. Apart from several famous “oldies” which we will be introducing, you can offer punishments based on your creative desires, lifestyles or choices – mind you; what turns team A on might switch team B off completely; one aspect of it is communication.


Some popular punishments around – For him or for her



SPANKING

Ass-whipping as a penalty has always been a fun performance even among those who don’t categorize themselves as BSDM followers. But as you would expect, it is loved mostly by all kinksters out there. This punishment, or reward for some, comes with a specific kind of pleasurable pain during the spanking, particularly while spanking the thighs and the bums. The stimulated blood nerves within those regions arouse the sexual organs. Hence, the dom’s control does not only brings humiliation due to the beating but also prevents the highly horny sub from any immediate sex.


To do the spanking professionally, BSDM hardware such as the wooden paddles with leather cover, various sizes and patterns of whips with gloves or riding crop will do the job. Source: bdsmdatingonly



Figging

You can’t engage in figging and not be aroused! Figging has been in existence for a century; it originated from the Japanese BSDM and SM torture practice. And, over time, this practice has become a notable tradition in the Far East.

To practice figging, a finger-size ginger root will be peeled skilfully and crafted like an anal dildo. Afterward, it will be put into the butt hole. After insertion, you will feel a sharp, immediate pain due to the essential oils present in the ginger - the sharp burning is entirely safe.


Note that while carving the ginger root, endeavor to leave a slight space at the end to hold the ginger effectively to prevent complete disappearance into the anus.

 

Practically, no sub will ignore the exquisite torture of figging. Just like spanking, the primary sexual organs become intensely aroused with great orgasm as the blood circulation, and the abdomen nerves are stimulated powerfully.



Tickle torture

The history of Tickle torture can be traced back to the Middles Ages when it was commonly applied as an interrogative technique. Even till the present time, it serves as a truth-oriented concept of control. While the submissive will be in a period of control loss with unbearable touches, the dom will relish the shout for mercy while tickling the most stimulating body organs. All you need is to immobilize the sub - the reason is that it is the only means of getting the sub to remain subservient to the tickling torture. The most sensitive body parts are the most obvious; these are usually the primary and the secondary genital organs. You can also try the feet; it makes the punishment a real torture.


You can perform tickling with hands, sticks, feathers or any other material – the basic idea is to reach the real limits or exceed them.



Rimming

 

What some calls Anal-Oral or ass licking is Rimming. During the Middle Ages, rimming is used as a punishment and submission technique. However, there are many lovers of “lickers” and the “licked” in our times. When you lick the buttocks, the nerve within this region is extremely sensitive to stimuli. And aside licking, you can perform a wet kissing or anus penetration with the tongue. Source: Lovense


Rimming is particularly useful for power games since the buttock is a dirty zone for oral sex. The dom enjoys the intensive stimuli at the anus and the humiliation of the sub - and the sub enjoys the submissive role of the punished.

 

You can intensify punishments by fixing the sub’s head while the dom stretches the bums. Over the time, smother boxes have always been used – smother box is a wooden rimming-box in which the sub’s head will be placed, it has openings for the face and the mouth on which the dom will sit. Yum yum.



Bastonate or foot whipping


The Italian expression Bastonate means stick blow and does hit the nerve of this SM and BSDM punishment precisely. The concept is primarily about blowing stick on the bare sole.

Our modern enthusiasts of this discipline have applied an old method that has been in use for more than three thousand years ago. The foot has been identified as a zone of intense stimulation. The abundant nerve cells at the sole not only transports circular finger movements to the brain at lightning speed, but also an almost exploding pleasure pain.

 

Note that it is crucial that the sub is immobilized, and also, increase in the strength of blows by the dom should be gradual. Consequently, the fantasy feeling from the two partners will also increase gradually while the sub will realize that he/she deserves the torture.



Electrical stimulation


Electrical stimulation is a unique form of sexual practice and punishment. While it is a modern phenomenon, it is considered a real classic and as an established practice in BSDM and SM actions.

 

To successfully perform electrical stimulation, high-end sex toys is the key. Even though strong electrical impulses push the nerve fibers, the brains and the acupoints of the body to the limits, the process is safe.



Human furniture or Forniphilia


Immobility is integral to SM and BSDM events, particularly concerning punishment. However, Forniphilia is an entirely different form of “immobility.” It offers a significant level of humiliation and discipline as the sub is mentally tied. Also, the sub has to act like furniture which serves the dom – the service is the punishment.

Forniphilia is done by ensuring that the sub is naked or in a cloth chose by the dom and remain motionless for several hours – most times with no tie. For instance, the sub can act as a cloth rack or serve as a footrest or table for the dom while the dom offers humiliation to the submissive partner.

Also, you can try neglect; neglecting the sub can be very punishing by putting the sub in a backroom or dark place for hours. The side effect? The sub will become more subservient.

 

Endeavor to polish your sub as you would rub your furniture regularly.



Diaper penalty


The diaper penalty is categorized to the group of infantilism that offers some sort of humiliation. In this form of punishment, the sub has to mimic a baby to display to the dom and herself that he/she is helpless and little. The sub will allow the dom to look after her like a small child and also, have to put on a pacifier – and a diaper too. The two partners will be stimulated in some ways as a result of the power gap between them.

 

Some of the roles which the dom may play include a parent, doctor, uncle or aunty. The punishment can come in the form of banning toilets for the sub or order the sub to wear the diaper beneath her cloth daily.

 

Note that infantilism depicts the power gap between a dom and a sub in unique role-playing ways. And endeavor not to confuse infantilism to paedophilia. Role-playing involves sex; however, it entails a set of roles and relishing the distance in power.



Punishments for the female slave


Some of the variations of binding or upsetting a sub are by terminating a sensual act just when you are about to reach the climax. Slave punishment has no imaginative limitations. Mental torture such as neglect or playing erotic games with a naked female can be used aside spanking, and figging. Some concepts you may engage in include:

 

  1. Make the dom feel excited without hands and mouth, and yet let him feel a maximum level of orgasm.
  2. Let her eat from a plate near the table – call it “Eat off the floor.”
  3. Ban orgasm – order her to inform you before she cum and tell her to stop while you only permit her to finish off when necessary.
  4. Cleaning while naked or wearing lingerie.
  5. Ice-cube treatment all over the body
  6. Tell her to drive naked with you and zoom off to the city.
  7. Performing chores with bell clamp on the nipples and labia – and instruct that the bell must not ring.
  8. Blindfold eyes for 24hrs while you make love and punish
  9. Enema; introduce a half-liter of water to the vagina and maintain it for 15 minutes while the dom watches.
  10. Take the sub out for dinner while she wears a love-ball inserted into the vagina. The love ball will get her strongly stimulated as she takes every step.


SM punishment for men


There are no limitations to the series of punishments and orders which a mistress or master can put forward. Such penalties can range from the negligence of one’s will, physical torture to the use of humiliating nicknames. The role of sub and dom is comprehensive and demands an appealing act. Many Sub men get their kicks by beeing set up in a woman’s dress, give a kiss to the dom’s feet or be punished through bastinado, figging or acting like a piece of furniture. Source: Quora

 

Other forms of penalty for the males include:

 

  1. Cooking without clothes and sitting under the table from which the dom eats.
  2. Putting on a lip-gloss daily or wearing a blouse.
  3. Wearing a urethral sound for 24 hours.
  4. Commands such as speak, Down, Sit, or lick for 24 hours only.
  5. Using a standing dick as a towel hanger – with an instruction that the towel must not fall.
  6. Compulsory shopping and must come back with a fitting cloth for her.
  7. Ban orgasm – he has to swallow himself if he fails.
  8. Non-wearing of underpants to duty every day
  9. Crawling for a whole day
  10. Having his penis photograph as his phone’s background image for seven days
  11. Putting on a butt plug for 24 hrs
  12. Must request permission for even the smallest action – including the use of text when you are far to one another.
  13. You can use the sub as an immobile floor lamp.
  14. Make the sub wear a Cock cage, which provides complete control to the dom.


Basic BSDM rules



Use of the safe word


Agree on a safe word before the scene to prevent bad experience. Once the word is mentioned, you have to stop the play immediately.

 

Do not use words like “harder” or any ambiguous or complicated words. When you have safety word in place, you will be able to endure towards your limit knowing that you can end the event at any time.


Discuss the session prior to the D-day


It is vital to imagine and discuss your possible limits before you begin the play. The most pleasurable gain can be achieved by keeping your stance below the critical point. In this way, the play will take longer, be intensive and more rewarding for the two partners.

Additionally, do not consume alcohol during the pre-play discussion because it will influence your inhibitions and feelings of pain.


Leave bad feelings aside


Do not engage BSDM role in the evening without resolving matters if you had a conflict in the morning. Endeavor to get rid of every bad feeling. The reason is that your mood is crucial to lustful-dominating tortures and BSDM; bad emotions will only ruin it. Keep off!

Article Written by Jett Oxy for oxy-shop.com. 

Jett is the owner of Oxy-shop.com, a BDSM insider, a sex educator and writer. 

"I always try to explore the confines of the BDSM world and bring valuable insights for new comers joining our adventure" 

Phd in related field, father and business owner, Jett Oxy brings you stories and advices  for educational and entertainment purposes. 


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