Sexual dominance is a core feature of BDSM. The term BDSM stands for bondage, dominance/submission, sadism, and masochism.

Sexual Dominance is therefore the act of exhibiting a set of behaviors and rules that involve controlling a submissive partner for sexual pleasure.

In a BDSM relationship, there is always the dominant and the submissive partner. Each of the partners has specific roles (dom-sub) to play and rules to follow.

Before we go into how to dominate your man in bed, we need to first understand your key roles and responsibilities as a dominant partner. Here are some of them:

• As a dominatrix, it is your responsibility to take control over everything.
• As a dominatrix, you should expect your sub partner to pleasure you.
• You can also meet out punishment when your sub misbehaves.
• You allow the obedience of your sub partner to your command.
  
  

• Dominating isn't the same as being cruel or mean. You do not need to be cruel or demeaning towards others or your partner. Dominating your man is about connection, not cruelty.

• You need to first understand yourself before taking on a dominant role. Figure out what turns you on and don't be ashamed about it.

• Be vocal about what turns you on. You must have the ability to articulate what you want. Communicate what pleases you sexually and why.

• You don't need to invest in handcuffs, whips, or ropes if you find them intimidating and they don't turn you on. You can use your words to tell your partner not to move. Handcuffs may just be used to add some drama to it.

• It's normal to struggle with outdated norms about gender and sexual roles. Even if you believe you're progressive, you may still have some internalized ideas of sexual roles and you need to unlearn them.
  
  

One thing to keep in mind as regards dominating your man in bed is that you need to act the part and build the charisma to play the role. Here are some BDSM activities you can practice that will help you dominate your husband sexually:

1. Take charge and be the boss and let it reflect in the tone of your voice and when you issue out commands. Let him address you with titles such as 'Mistress' or 'Queen'.
   
2. Wear an outfit that suits your role. We recommend leather outfits for the sexy and sultry look. Of course, pair your looks with appropriate attitude.
   
3. Allow him to worship you. Let your man worship your body. Ask him to massage you or kiss you all over. Let him worship at your feet. Make him lick and suck your feet.
   
4. Tie him up. Restrain him and do as you, please. Whisper naughty words, and make him beg for your body.
   
5. Control his sexual pleasure. Control his orgasms. Stop when he’s near the climax and let him beg. He'd never forget the thrill.
   
6. Make him watch you undress, and don’t let him touch you until you give him your permission.
   
7. Make them do your chores and tease them as they do them.
   
8. Issue out commands instead of requests such as changing positions or going down on you.
   
9. Choose the outfit they must wear during playtime.
   
10. Lightly choke them.
    
11. Choose the time he can/can’t make eye contact with you during sex.
    
12. Incorporate the use of handcuffs or blindfolds if you want to.
    
13. Try temperature play such as experimenting with ice or hot wax.
    
14. Venture into impact play by using floggers, paddles, canes, or whips.
    
15. Experiment with a chastity cage or belt.

Eileen M Gormley on Quora also gives examples on how to dominate your man in bed;

“You. On your knees. Now take off my shoes. Carefully. Put them away. No licking. Now unzip my dress. Slowly. No touching me though. That’s a privilege you must earn….”

And so on. You can do all the usual things you do, but you give the orders. If you want a foot rub, tell him to do it, and make sure he does it the way you want it. Or a really long luxurious back rub.

As a reward, you can allow him to touch you. Or spank him. Up to you.

CantStopStaring on Reddit also suggests;

If you're not sure, one thing you could start with would be to kneel him up on the bed, ass against the headboard or wall, and tie his hands in place. Blindfold him, then lay on your stomach in front of him and tease him with oral (and whatever else comes to mind) for an hour or so.

There is no way the idea that all men enjoy dominating and all women enjoy being the submissive partner in the bedroom should be the norm. Break out of that societal norm and fulfill all your fantasies. Good luck, Dominatrix!