01-02-2023 - Written by Jett Oxy - Follow on medium
Every kink lover needs a community where they can meet like-minded people and ask questions bothering them. Since late 2008, FetLife has proven to be an ideal community for this. Also known for organizing educational events relevant to the BDSM world, FetLife has worked its way to be considered an amazing well of knowledge and interaction for kinky individuals.
However, sadly, FetLife gets so many trolls and negative feedback because of the difficulty people face in getting information from the site. But, not to worry. This article will teach you everything you need to know about how to effectively use FetLife to broaden your knowledge in BDSM.
Let us start by establishing what FetLife is not. FetLife is not a meat market. It is not a place for finding a dominant or submissive or even a life partner. However, we can not rule out the possibility of you finding a kinky partner.
We may now talk about what FetLife is. FetLife is like Facebook, but for kinky people. It is a social media platform created to enable kinky individuals form a community for interaction and to get answers to questions about their kinky lifestyle.
Just like every other social media platform, you have the option to join groups, share photos, post writings, comment on other people's posts to help you interact with other people so you can make friends. There are different groups to suit each person's interests so ensure you join one that best tickles your fancy.
Being a new sign-up member on FetLife can be a little overwhelming. It is okay to feel nervous, alone and out of place. If you have not signed up, you may want to hurry up and do that before we check out how to settle in fine. Here are some few tips on how you can settle in quickly:
You may broaden your knowledge about BDSM through a variety of features on FetLife.com; the search box, a person's profile, groups, activity feed and the writing section. Let us now look at these features one after the other and how you can use them to learn:
However, there are topics you can not find in the search box. They include: user stats (height, weight, location, fetish commonalities, other personal ads information), group discussion thread topics, pictures and videos.
Each group has an about page and a separate discussion thread with roles attached. Ensure you read them before making a post so you do not make an offensive post to the group.
Follow these simple steps to delete your FetLife account:
Alternatively, you can go directly to the delete profile option here:
https://fetlife.com/deactivate?type=permanently%20delete
After deleting your profile, all your data will be deleted after seven days.
According to Baku, "…we have an unconventionally large number of women on the site. The majority of dating sites have under five to 10 per cent women, but we have a ratio of almost 50-50. Or let’s say 40-50, when I put in the genderqueer, male-to-female and female-to-male people.”
In spite of its flaws, FetLife still serves as one of the most reliable platforms for kink and BDSM lovers to socialize, bond and learn from each other. For people who are termed 'odd' in the society, the relevance of a community like this can ever be overemphasized. We hope you follow our tips and have a nice time being a part of the FetLife community.
Article Written by Jett Oxy for oxy-shop.com.
Jett is the owner of Oxy-shop.com, a BDSM insider, a sex educator and writer.
"I always try to explore the confines of the BDSM world and bring valuable insights for new comers joining our adventure"
Phd in related field, father and business owner, Jett Oxy brings you stories and advices for educational and entertainment purposes.