16-05-2020 - Written by Jett Oxy - Follow on medium

WHAT TO CALL A SUBMISSIVE MALE?

A submissive is a person in BDSM who submits to a Dominant person (Urban dictionary)

A nickname and a pet name are two different things. A nickname is usually given by family or friends, or is a short version of the formal name. While a pet name is used in a D/s relationship as a sign of affection for each other's roles.

Submissive pet names fall into different categories - some are used only during a scene or on everyday life, some are humiliating, some are rewarding.

Whatever your fancy or motive, Oxy has gathered a list of creative submissive names ideas for you to pick!

1. Subtle bdsm SUB names

For new characters of the BDSM world, it is quite hard to transition from being vanilla one moment and switch to being D/s the next.

Everyone has his own techniques- and one way is to use a subtle signal by calling the sub with his attributed pet name. Using male submissive names is a signal to communicate to your partner that you are ready to fulfil your D/s role. This mechanism will be a psychological stimulus to prepare your mind for the transition and make your knee weak!

Male sub names used in a particular context will allow the sub to know what the expectations are of him at any given moment. Once addressed by his real name, the husband will know it is in a partner/husband context, once addressed by his pet name, he knows it is his Goddess talking to him.

Tips: In the list of submissive names for males, pick a soft one for this purpose - Thus, you will be able to alternate back and forth in front of anyone without anyone being the wiser.

Example:

“Patrick, pass me the salt” - Wife talking

“Prince, pass me the salt” - Dom talking

Sweetheart
Treasure
Honey
My Pearl
Prince
Beloved
Cherish
Bliss
Dove

Angel
Whisper
Precious
Dearest
Charm
Glimmer
Seren
Bumble
Pippin

2. FOREIGN SUB NAMES

Translate a name with a meaning into another language. For example “slave” is “Servus” in latin and “puella” is girl - combine it together like “serella”. Only you both will know the meaning of it - thus you can use it as a sexy nickname in everyday life.

Another popular way is to translate a typical pet name into Spanish or French - For example “Mon amour” is my love in French. Use Google translate to try it on https://translate.google.com

Amato (Beloved)
Bajo (Low)
Keiji (Respectful)
Elmas (Diamond)
Ciro (Gentle)

Yuri (Farmer)
Asier (Beginning)
Kuno (Advisor)
Valerio (Strong)
Levent (Graceful)

3. A feminine version of his name or something femine

Often in a BDSM scene, a male sub embraces a sissy role and a femine, weak persona. Call it this way to assert the dominance.

Feminize him, or come up with a cute ‘girly’ name to call him, and use it regularly.

Or find a feline version of a male name.

Princess
Kitty Slave Boy
Lady
Madam
Mademoiselle

Steven>Stephania
John>Johanna
Phillipe>Pippa
Claude>Claudia
James>Jamese

4. A FLOWER SUB NAME

Why not combining the feminie aspect of a name with the power of a majestic plant? Flowers all have a meaning and history attached to them.

For example, a “Rose” is a special gift you give someone you love. It is also something you cultivate, prune, fertilize, water - Exactly the same a sub should be treated in a D/s relationship.

Rose
Blossom
Petal
Sage
Florian

5. SOMETHING DEGRADING

If it is his likes, some subs will be turned on being called a degrading and humiliating pet name.

Some words have a great deal of power behind them. It is often spoken with aggression and implied dominance of one using it over the one on the receiving end of it. In short, it is a total turn on for people within this kink. Some words can have the power to put subs in the headspace of extreme submission.

A male sub kink is to reduce himself in the eyes of the dominant partner, so a pet name for the occasion seems like a great way to achieve it.

For some people it might seem extreme, but never yuck other’s people’s yum

Slut
Faggot
Bitch
Maggot
Cum Slut
Glump
Baby Dick
Worm

Servant
Lackey
Doormat
Sniveler
Mutt
Fool
Puppet
Toady

6. MAKE HUMILIATING PET NAMES CUTE

By the magic of a sentence, transform an aggressive name into something cute and more appropriated.

Mummy's favorite SLut
My Little Pain Slut
Bitch Boy
My Bitch
My Fuck Toy
My Servant

7. ASSERT OWNERSHIP

A male sub is owned by a master, thus guys like to be called as properties: At dom’s pleasure.

Example of bdsm pet names:

Mine
My Possession
My property
My Stool
My Toy

8. A sub is nurtured and protected by the dom, so be his name

A submissive and a dom both learn from each other in the course of a D/s relationship. Yet, the dom is the master leading the way and taking decisions, while the submissive is the one obeying and learning: as a father leading the way to a child.

A good idea of sub names can follow those respective roles.

Good Boy
Good Girl
Li' Fellow
Boy Toy
Lil' Slut

Baby Bo
Baby Doll
Sweet Pea
Tiny Tot
Precious

9. A PET NAME FOR A MALE PET

Stick to what a submissive is, a master’s pet.

Puppy
Pet
Pawn
Kitty
Mice

10. TRADITIONAL SUB NAME FOR MALE SUBMISSIVE

Stick to what works!

Sub or Subby will do just fine.

Please write a comment of what pet names you currently use in your relationship. Do you use a sub name in play or out of play or do you have a word that holds power enough to set the libido on fire?

We would love to read your experiences and the why’s

FAQ

How can individuals customize their identity and D/S synmaics in the world of kink?

Individuals in the realm of kink have the opportunity to craft their identity and D/s dynamics according to their own desires and preferences. Embracing genderfuckery and breaking traditional rules can allow for a personalized approach to self-expression within these dynamics. Through engaging in kink, BDSM, and fetish play, individuals are able to create a space where they can freely explore and shape their identity, establish unique relationship protocols, design their own sexual experiences, and construct a temporary reality that aligns with their individual needs and pleasures. This freedom to customize and tailor their interactions enables individuals to find empowerment, satisfaction, and fulfillment in the world of kink.

WHat are some common bdsm sub names and titles used in the community?

In the BDSM community, individuals often choose names and titles that resonate with their identity and power dynamic. Some common BDSM names and titles include "Sir," "Daddy," "Master," "Mistress," "Dom," "Domme," "sub," "slave," "boy," "girl," "pup," "pet," and "kitten." These terms can symbolize authority, submission, ownership, and role distinctions within a BDSM relationship. It is important to note that preferences for names and titles may vary widely among individuals based on their personal gender expression, sexual orientation, and comfort level with traditional BDSM honorifics.

How does kink and bdsm play allow individuals to create their own identity?

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Through consensual and thoughtful interactions, participants are able to customize their relationships, sexual dynamics, and realities to create a sense of fulfillment and empowerment. This process allows them to break free from constraints and establish a personalized space where their preferences and boundaries are respected, ultimately enabling them to authentically express themselves and find pleasure in ways that resonate with their true selves.

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