04-19-2023 - Written by Jett Oxy - Follow on medium
If you are a newbie in BDSM, hearing the word 'flogging' for the first time might make you wonder why anybody would want to flog an adult in the name of sex.
We put it to you that you've been missing out, but welcome to the kinky community. Flogging is a perfect way to increase sexual stimulation between both BDSM partners. Still confused? Read this article to learn everything you need to know about BDSM flogging from a domme's perspective.
Flogging is the repetitive beating or whipping of another human. In BDSM, flogging is regarded as a type of impact play. It is usually used as a form of "punishment" and people who know how to find sexual pleasure in pain find it very useful.
Just like every other BDSM activity, safety, safe words, and limitations should be discussed between BDSM partners before flogging happens.
The term flogger may refer to the person administering the beating or punishment. It is used to describe the instrument being used to flog.
A flogger comes in two parts – handle and tail(s). The handle is made of strong and sturdy material and the tails which refer to the strands attached to the handle can be made from silicone, leather, rope, and even chain. Tails with thicker materials cause a less stingy sensation than the ones with thinner silicone materials.
Newbies in flogging might need a bit of practice to find out what flogger suits and stimulates them the most. Some subs prefer the softer feel of leather to the sting that rubber tails provide.
Beginners in BDSM might believe flogging is the easiest BDSM activity. But as much as it's not that difficult, it requires plenty of concentration, some practice and experience.
Experienced floggers and BDSM connoisseurs always advise newbies to attend a flogging workshop, watch demos, and practice on a wall or pillow before engaging in the real act.
Check out other tips for beginners who want to engage in BDSM flogging;
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Think about what kind of experience you want to create. One based on heavy pain will get adrenaline going, bringing on a flight or fight response. It can be fun to play that way.
Alternatively, a rhythmic, heavy, thuddy flogging will start to bring out endorphins for many people and create a more space headspace. You can mix the two, but you want to be careful you don't completely undo what you are trying to create.
● WHAT BODY PART IS SAFE FOR ME TO FLOG IN BDSM?
For purposes of safety, especially for the novices, the best and basic area to flog is the upper back away from the spine (it’s important to avoid the spine to prevent any vertebrae/tissue injury). Other areas to flog include the butt, thighs, and breasts but should be done with caution.
● ARE THERE TECHNIQUES TO FLOGGING?
The two basic techniques to flogging are single stroke flogging and cyclic flogging. Single stroke flogging involves one single stroke at a time WHILE Cyclic flogging involves a series of strokes that flow into the next stroke and creating a more rhythmic pattern.
If someone trusts you enough to let you flog them, you owe it to him or her to be sensitive and careful. Never forget that flogging is supposed to be sexually gratifying to all parties involved. Good luck and have fun.
Article Written by Jett Oxy for oxy-shop.com.
Jett is the owner of Oxy-shop.com, a BDSM insider, a sex educator and writer.
"I always try to explore the confines of the BDSM world and bring valuable insights for new comers joining our adventure"
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