Most of our beliefs and lifestyles in today’s world are somewhat outside the standards. We now find polygamy strange, while we see open relationships, swinging, polyamory as extremes. It doesn’t just stop at this, another lifestyle we have successfully classified as a “taboo” is Cuckolding.

Contrary to the popular assumption that cuckolding is another fantasy restricted to the erotica and porn world, the enjoyable act is now popular among normal individuals who practice it out of their personal desires and convictions.

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Introducing Cuckholding

Perhaps, you are hearing about cuckolding for the first time? Well, it explains a peculiar situation where a man, the cuckold, is being cheated on by his wife. That is the literal meaning, but it still doesn’t paint the exact picture. Cuckolding, like other BDSM, has a twist – all the parties involved usually give their consents to the act. And interestingly, the cuck (the man, who is being left out or “cheated on”) is typically the party to initiate the whole process.

What is the catch with cuckolding?

Cuckolding holds an intricate appeal – the same way other sexuality and psychology activities are with humans. In the bid to understand this better, we surveyed a cuckolding group online, where people were asked to proffer answers to some specific questions about cuckolding. The first thing that interests me was how quick people were to respond. Several responders, both females and males, all contributed voluntarily and extensively about their experiences. For some, they still fantasize about it all, while for others, they hold several years of experience in the act.

However, almost all respondents had a tone of submission and humiliation in their feedback. For instance, a respondent, Alex, says, 

“The best part of the experience is when I get to be submissive and then humiliated. That feeling when you see your wife being satisfied sexually by another man is difficult, after all, you cannot satisfy her completely on your own.”  

Alex, however, said that the fantasy and the reality aren’t always the same. However, he is glad that 

“we can now practice this lifestyle in reality, with all the parties involved living the pleasure we’ve once fantasized about in reality.”

Females Crave Cuckolding

A female craving cuckolding may be an exception, but it sure exists. While sharing her take, Miss Jane, explains, 

“I enjoy and understand cuckolding extensively, perhaps because I have always been a polyamorous dominant female.  Another reason I find it rewarding is because it is rebellious to the norms ascribed to the female folks by the society, so it is a form of freedom for me.”

Apparently, Miss Jane wasn’t the only female that gave a defense about this particular feeling, a divorcee, Mrs. Rose also says,

“As a divorcee, I was so done with the conventional relationship systems or monogamous arrangements. So, when I was introduced to cuckolding by my partner, I had no hesitation about my willingness to give it a try. And I am glad I did!”

Source: Cosmopolitan

Cuckolding remains a taboo in the realm of kink and swinging

As expected, cuckolding enthusiasts are faced with the same problem of finding a third party for such arrangements. It is even more difficult when the couple both share specific needs or desires that involves a taboo.

There have been reports of situations where two partners, couldn’t find a suitable bull, despite their in-depth explorations of cuckolding fantasies together. The bull is referred to as the man who guests stars. While some have resorted to using pleasure items like dildos as a temporary replacement, others have combined this with deep sensual talks and humiliations to live their fantasies in reality.

Cuckolding vs. Polyamory

With more revelations, it became apparent that polyamory is similar to cuckolding in several ways. First, several respondents identified an improved communication and stronger bond with their partner as one of the primary effects of cuckolding. According to such people, staying committed to cuckold requires understanding the view that love is more than sex. 

Likewise, some respondents believed that cuckolding has increased the level of trust, love, and intimacy among the parties. And this ultimately offers more depth to relationships, with people getting to appreciate each other and communicate way better than they were before cuckolding sets in. 

Summarily, like polyamory, cuckolding has managed to strengthen several relationships out there. In recent times, however, cuckolding has been in the media limelight, and this has led to the discovery of several other lifestyles. Yes, the public has set standards and boundaries about norm and acceptable acts, however, this doesn’t change the fact that people who engage in cuckolding are similar to people with any other fetish or similar open relationship styles.

Source: esquire