Being a ‘hotwife’ can be a lot of fun once you and your partner have discussed and agree to give it a try. Your partner may either decide to join you or just watch you with another man. Other times, he may allow you to go somewhere private with another man, where he cannot see you. Again, these depend on you two. 

Now that you and your partner have agreed on becoming a hotwife for him, the next question is, “How do you go about it?” Well, we have the answer below. 

How do you become a hotwife for your partner?

First, let us describe a hotwife. A hotwife is someone whose partner has no problems with their practicing infidelity or adultery. The husband/boyfriend may either watch live or get pictures of his wife/girlfriend playing the role of a hotwife. They may also be in another room while the acts go on. Whichever way, being a hotwife is a modern method of cuckolding. 

You and your partner must be very clear about your expectations and how you want the whole process to go. He may be there to watch you, be somewhere close, or follow up the sexual experience through texts and Snapchats. Your decision must favor you both in terms of pleasure, comfort, and safety. 

For a clearer perspective, let’s take a look at some real-life hotwife experience narrated by the partners involved.

“It all started with our decision to give a hotwife experience a go. We wanted it to be in a hotel instead of our home – for the sake of intimacy. My boyfriend was having drinks at the hotel’s bar while I stayed in the room to get ready for my date. He chose my sexiest lingerie for me to wear, and it looked really good on me. I also had some makeup on, and I was as sexy as I can be. While at it, I kept sending naughty text and picture updates to my man. I showed him how hot I was for another man.

I was visibly nervous until my date arrived. Once he arrived, I keyed into my role. After a few minutes of talking, I led him to the large queen size bed. My date was aware of my roleplay as a hotwife. He also knew about my boyfriend’s presence downstairs. 

My nerves kicked in as soon as my date started to undress me. Doing this whole art of intimacy behind my boyfriend translates to cheating in my mind. I had to reassure myself repeatedly that I was not. Any iota of hesitation left me as soon as my date started eating me out in a sexy but nasty way. I developed intense feelings of desire, moaning loud enough to get the attention of my boyfriend downstairs. 

The fun was getting even more intense. After eating me out, my date fucked me really good. I came from the orals and again through penetration. I was getting constant reminders from him on how naughty I was as a hotwife. We were done, and he headed out. I entered the bathroom to clean up and headed downstairs to meet my boyfriend at the bar. He was literally dying to hear all that happened, and I didn’t disappoint. I told him every bit of it, and he was visibly turned on. 

This made me feel better, and more importantly, accomplished. I look forward to my next hotwife experience already.”

“We both decide not to let my boyfriend be present in person. However, he will be getting the updates via texts and pictures. We believed this would turn him on and make the whole experience even more fun for me. 

My boyfriend was waiting in another hotel room, and I kept sending him regular updates. The more frequently his phone beeps, the more turned on he is because he knows he is getting some naughty updates about what my date was doing to me. 

I sent him pictures of me covered in a stranger’s cum – he specifically requested them. The pictures are clearly explicit, so I may not share them here. But trust me, they did the job as expected, for both him and me.”

“My boyfriend and I have a couple of rules, and one of them is never to fuck without wearing condoms. We have always kept to that rule because it feels safe for both of us, plus we do not see any significant difference between sex with and without condoms. 

My date for this hotwife arrangement was the regular guy we always use. This time around, my boyfriend was in another room. As usual, I was already wet from the magical touches of this handsome man. But this time around, it was more intense than usual. Things get really hot, and we had sex without condoms – for the second time. 

At first, it was all fun and sexy, until he forgot to pull out during his climax. He ended up coming inside me. The last time I had unprotected sex with him, he managed to cum all over me instead of inside my pussy. But we could not pull that off this time. 

I was clearly worried. I thought my boyfriend would be very mad at me for breaking one of our rules. Fortunately, he was not. He even asked for pictures, and once he saw that my date released his cum in me, he came to my hotel room and fucked me again.

You mustn’t try this with a total stranger. My date here is our regular hotwife date, and my boyfriend and I know he is clean. Do not have unprotected sex with someone you do not know!”

“Before now, my boyfriend used to watch me while I masturbate or please myself. But I wanted more, so I pitched him a hotwife arrangement where he watches me getting fucked by a stranger. Luckily for me, he agreed!

We invited this handsome man over, who fucked me really hard while my boyfriend watches from the sofa on the other side of the room. He was so turned on that he touched himself a few times. And when my date was done and left, he cleaned me up.”

Like every other arranged relationship, chances are you will develop feelings as a hotwife. This is why you must discuss this beforehand with your partner. There are no assurances that you will not fall for that handsome and sexy date of yours as a hotwife. After all, you are a human too! 

The feelings may become so strong that you consider leaving your boyfriend for your new lust partner. You start to think more about him, other than just casual sex. This will translate to cheating on your boyfriend. Even if you are not doing physically, thinking about another guy in such a way is a form of mental cheating.

When this happens, the best thing to do is to be open to your boyfriend. Yes, tell him about your newly found feelings. He will either fly up or tell you it is okay. Either way, the final decision lies with you. But you both should agree to put a stop to the hotwife adventures. It is the only way to ensure that the feelings do not continue to grow. 

Your priority should be the hard, exciting sex, and its effects on you and your partner. Anything outside this is bad for your relationship.

As a hotwife, the realistic place to find partners will be online. You may have to register and set up an account on Reddit, Adult Friend Finder, and similar platforms, as a hotwife looking for a potential ‘date’

If you do this well, you will get tons of messages from intending dates. However, you must be careful to differentiate someone who understands the nitty-gritty of being a hotwife from someone who just wants to fuck. 

The hotwife arrangement is slightly complex. Hence, going into it with an inexperienced ‘date’ may defeat the whole purpose of the arrangement. Once you are convinced about the potentials of your ‘date’ from their first message, proceed to chat with them further.

Ensure that you share the same goals, and more importantly, feel safe with them. You will most likely warm up to them faster and easier if their intentions are clear, and they know how the whole arrangement works.  

Lastly, do not hook up with anyone you have not taken your time to know very well.