A BDSM collar is a piece of jewelry for sub partners in a BDSM relationship. A collar signifies submissiveness and a feeling of ‘being owned’. It is the most physical symbol that a dominant can give to their sub partners. Collars are usually neck accessories but they could also come in other forms of jewelry such as bracelets or rings. Sometimes, there could be a collaring ceremony where the dom presents the sub with the collar. 

BDSM collars are mostly worn at events to signify that the sub is not free to do anything without the dominant’s permission. Other times, they could be worn during sexy play time as they could also come as part of a kinky and sexy lingerie set. 

Before you go ahead to being a collared sub, you must know that there are different types of BDSM collars. Take a look at some of them:

Being collared could have different meanings, depending on the individual. While for some, it could mean a new beginning, for others, it could be a symbol of the training process. You should discover what each type of collar means to you even before you get into a kinky relationship. 

Also, when you get into a relationship, understand what collars mean to your partner. It would be disastrous if you and your partner place different levels of value on a BDSM collar. 

A collar has personal meanings, therefore it can mean anything you want it to mean. To a sub, a collar could mean a symbol of commitment which could be for a contractual period of time. It could also serve as a tool of comfort or protection for the sub. Some subs also see it as a symbol of the sub’s role (submissiveness) in a d/s relationship.  

Although rare, it is sometimes okay to ask to be a collared sub, especially if you think you deserve or need it. Also, if you believe you and your partner have shared a deep connection and the relationship is well on its way to working out, then you may ask for a collar.

If you must ask to be a collared sub, speak from your heart and be genuine about your request. You may plan a proposal setting, declare your commitment to your partner, share an instance when you felt deeply connected to them, then make your request. Good luck!

The style of collar you want determines where to get it. Ranging from stainless steel rings to bracelets to chokers and bands, collars come in a variety of forms. A standard physical sex toy and BDSM gear shop should sell quality BDSM collars. However, if you are looking to buy a BDSM collar online, check here.

You can pick from a wide variety of collars to choose the one that best suits you.

Having known what collaring a sub means, you should discuss how much value you place on your collar with your partner and what each collar means to you both.  Be on the same page on the type of collar to be worn at different points. It would help you both connect better and minimize conflicts. Happy collaring ceremony (in advance).