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01-18-2023 - Written by Jett Oxy - Follow on medium
What Does It Mean To Be Collared?
If you are into the kink lifestyle, then you most likely know how much collared subs value their BDSM collars. Nothing beats the feeling of being owned and protected by a dom. A nice accessory to tell the public you are in a BDSM relationship seems like a great kinky idea too.
If you are new to the kink game and you are wondering what BDSM collars signify and how to collar a sub, you are at the right place. Read this article to learn everything about what it means to be collared.
What is a BDSM Collar?
A BDSM collar is a piece of jewelry for sub partners in a BDSM relationship. A collar signifies submissiveness and a feeling of ‘being owned’. It is the most physical symbol that a dominant can give to their sub partners. Collars are usually neck accessories but they could also come in other forms of jewelry such as bracelets or rings. Sometimes, there could be a collaring ceremony where the dom presents the sub with the collar.
BDSM collars are mostly worn at events to signify that the sub is not free to do anything without the dominant’s permission. Other times, they could be worn during sexy play time as they could also come as part of a kinky and sexy lingerie set.
TYPES OF COLLARS
Before you go ahead to being a collared sub, you must know that there are different types of BDSM collars. Take a look at some of them:
- Collar of consideration: Quite common amongst new BDSM relationships, this type of collar is worn to show that the sub is still under consideration. If found worthy and the relationship has a tendency of working, the sub may then move to a permanent collar.
- Training Collar: In most relationships, the training collar comes next. These are collars being worn by subs during their training process. Once you have completed training, your dominant partner may decide to give you another collar. Read more about training a sub here.
- Protection Collars: Collars also signify ownership and protection. Anybody familiar with the symbols of the BDSM community knows not to approach a collared sub. It symbolizes the dom being responsible for the sub.
- Play collars: A play collar comes into play during a kinky and relaxed BDSM role scene. It sets the tone for some light-hearted BDSM action.
- Day collars: These are perfect for collared subs who would rather not take off their collars. They look like regular pieces of jewelry that one can get away with among vanilla folks.
- Permanent collars: In dom/sub relationships, a permanent collar signifies a more permanent state in their relationship. They carry the same significance as a wedding band among vanilla couples. This type of collar is not to be taken off for any reason. Taking it off signifies that the relationship is over or either or both parties need a break.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE COLLARED?
Being collared could have different meanings, depending on the individual. While for some, it could mean a new beginning, for others, it could be a symbol of the training process. You should discover what each type of collar means to you even before you get into a kinky relationship.
Also, when you get into a relationship, understand what collars mean to your partner. It would be disastrous if you and your partner place different levels of value on a BDSM collar.
WHAT DOES A COLLAR MEAN TO A SUB?
A collar has personal meanings, therefore it can mean anything you want it to mean. To a sub, a collar could mean a symbol of commitment which could be for a contractual period of time. It could also serve as a tool of comfort or protection for the sub. Some subs also see it as a symbol of the sub’s role (submissiveness) in a d/s relationship.
HOW DO I ASK TO BE COLLARED?
Although rare, it is sometimes okay to ask to be a collared sub, especially if you think you deserve or need it. Also, if you believe you and your partner have shared a deep connection and the relationship is well on its way to working out, then you may ask for a collar.
If you must ask to be a collared sub, speak from your heart and be genuine about your request. You may plan a proposal setting, declare your commitment to your partner, share an instance when you felt deeply connected to them, then make your request. Good luck!
WHERE TO BUY A SUB COLLAR
The style of collar you want determines where to get it. Ranging from stainless steel rings to bracelets to chokers and bands, collars come in a variety of forms. A standard physical sex toy and BDSM gear shop should sell quality BDSM collars. However, if you are looking to buy a BDSM collar online, check here.
You can pick from a wide variety of collars to choose the one that best suits you.
FAQS
WHAT IS A VELCRO COLLAR?
A Velcro collar has no strong meaning attached to it. Depending on the dominant partner, it could be given and taken away at any time. Unlike other types of collars, it has no sense of sacredness backing it, it could be said to reduce the significance of a true BDSM collar.
CAN A BDSM COLLAR BE USED IN A LONG-DISTANCE D/S RELATIONSHIP?
One effective way of maintaining the barest physical connection between you and your long distance dominant partner is by wearing a collar. It gives a sense of comfort and reality to your relationship.
With nowadays technology, it is even possible to control a sub from afar, thanks to the little devil. This shock collar can be synchronized to an app and ownership given via an app. There is the possibility to send some light electro shocks and set up several sets for a long distance play.
A Velcro collar has no strong meaning attached to it. Depending on the dominant partner, it could be given and taken away at any time. Unlike other types of collars, it has no sense of sacredness backing it, it could be said to reduce the significance of a true BDSM collar.
CAN A BDSM COLLAR BE USED IN A LONG-DISTANCE D/S RELATIONSHIP?
One effective way of maintaining the barest physical connection between you and your long distance dominant partner is by wearing a collar. It gives a sense of comfort and reality to your relationship.
With nowadays technology, it is even possible to control a sub from afar, thanks to the little devil. This shock collar can be synchronized to an app and ownership given via an app. There is the possibility to send some light electro shocks and set up several sets for a long distance play.
CONCLUSION
Having known what collaring a sub means, you should discuss how much value you place on your collar with your partner and what each collar means to you both. Be on the same page on the type of collar to be worn at different points. It would help you both connect better and minimize conflicts. Happy collaring ceremony (in advance).
Article Written by Jett Oxy for oxy-shop.com.
Jett is the owner of Oxy-shop.com, a BDSM insider, a sex educator and writer.
"I always try to explore the confines of the BDSM world and bring valuable insights for new comers joining our adventure"
Phd in related field, father and business owner, Jett Oxy brings you stories and advices for educational and entertainment purposes.