A Beginners guide to the art of pegging

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While pegging is used often in BDSM due to the control dynamic, it does not need to be limited to D/s relationships. Anyone who is looking to spice things up in the bedroom and possibly achieve mind blowing orgasms may want to look at pegging. Pegging is basically role reversal, where the woman wears the penis and the man takes it anally. Many straight men may be concerned about the whole aspect of having something penetrate them in that area, but the truth is, the stimulation achieved can be very intimate and transformative.


As they say, don't knock it until you have tried it. While it sounds fairly straightforward, there are a number of aspects that need to be considered before jumping in to a pegging session. 


Here are a few tips and suggestions before you get going and suggestions for during your adventure to make it more pleasurable.


Staying Clean & Relaxed

To keep things clean the first time around, the male partner may want to look at having an enema or deep douche at least 3 to 4 hours before you get started and perhaps a quick freshening up with a gentle douche before playtime commences. If the bowels are empty, there is less mess and the experience is also more comfortable.


Make sure you have chatted beforehand about how things are going to happen, concerns and suggestions as well as safe words if playing in a BDSM type setting. Even between partners in a non BDSM type relationship, consent and discussion is very important to ensure that everything goes well and you can stop immediately if there is any pain or severe discomfort. Slight discomfort the first time is to be expected, but it should not hurt. 


Experimentation before the actual pegging is also a good thing. Use fingers, a small vibe or butt plug and other toys to get a feeling for having an object inserted in that area. Make sure you use plenty of lube while experimenting as well. You can also discuss wearing a blindfold if he is a bit self-conscious the first time you try pegging. This also stimulates the imagination and may help loosen inhibitions a little.

Choosing A Toy

Make sure you have purchased a good quality dildo for playtime.


There are 2 types you can look at: The dildo that can be inserted in to the vagina which also provides clitoral stimulation during pegging is a good option if you have strong vaginal muscles and will be able to hold it in place. It is fairly realistic looking and provides both partners with stimulation. Good quality silicone in a medium size is recommended.

The 2nd type is the strap on harness which has an O-ring design to keep the dildo in the right place during play. There are jock strap types which work in a similar way. These toys often have accessories that can be added on to make things even more fun. You can also choose your size, thickness; design etc. as long as the dildo has a flared base. There may be some rotation during play and you may need to guide by hand to ensure it goes where it needs to.

SIZING

Size is very important when it comes to pegging. It is important to use a good quality dildo, preferably in a smooth silicone which can be sterilized easily, is safe to use and non-porous. Look at starting small and you can always look at a bigger one as you become more proficient. Other types of dildos that can be used include PVC, latex, rubber and jelly, preferably covered with a condom to keep it clean.


Avoid purchasing hard dildos, especially for your first pegging session. Make sure that no matter what type you use that there is a flared bottom section to avoid the dildo sliding too far in or slipping out of the harness. The dildo should not be able to slide right up.

WARMING UP

Make sure you have plenty water based lubricant on hand. Silicone or oil based lubricants can damage certain materials or cause them to become more porous, so it is better to stick to water-based, which is also easier to clean up afterwards. Plenty of lubricant will also help make the first time more pleasurable. 


Foreplay is also quite important to get things going. Some people even enjoy penetrative penile-vagina intercourse before working up to pegging. Plenty warm up id recommended. You can also look at massaging the butt and even inserting a finger if desired before you get down to anal penetration. In this instance, how you warm up is totally up to you. When he is good and ready, you can move on to the next step.

Choose A Position

While there are a number of positions that can work including cowboy and missionary, you may want to start with doggy-style the first time round as it is the easiest position to start with. Tube up the dildo and the exterior of the anus and gently push the tip against the entrance. Do not push it in, wait until he relaxes sufficiently and the dildo should slide in easily. Start off with slow movements and do not pull all the way back quickly causing the dildo to slip out. It may do so on its own, and then you can start again with the slow insertion. Follow his cues on movement and speed and move with him. Make sure to add lubricant during play to any part of the dildo that is exposed to keep it gliding smoothly. If you want you can hold the dildo in place and let him move against it so that he controls his comfort and speed.


 

During pegging, you can also enjoy playing with his butt, back, legs and even reach around and stroke him during play. You can spice this up with some butt slaps, running your nails down his back or massage, whatever strikes your fancy. 

 

As long as you are both comfortable, pegging can be an awesome experience and something new to add to your adventures in the bedroom. There is no harm in experimenting with the toys and the positions as long as you both are having fun.


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