12-09-2019 - Written by Jett Oxy - Follow on medium
“Ruined Orgasm” will most likely not be new to you as a male chastity practitioner or enthusiast. Whichever or however you may have learned about ruined orgasm, there is definitely more to it than you know. This piece will shed more light on ruined orgasm, and all you need to know about it.
We can describe a ruined orgasm as a male orgasm where the stimulation ceases once the male starts ejaculating. In this case, the penis is not massaged nor stroked. A ruined orgasm can mean preventing the stimulation of the top erogenous parts like testicles, nipples, and prostrate.
Unlike edging where the stimulation is paused before ejaculation, a ruined orgasm allows ejaculation to begin and the pause comes only when the sperm is about to start coming out. This makes the sperm trickles out instead of spurting.
There is a certain uniqueness that is associated with a ruined orgasm. And this is the fact that although the semen comes out, the expected pleasurable sensations are absent. This is what makes it different from the usual full orgasm. The horniness and disappointment remain evident despite the orgasm.
A ruined orgasm, tease, and denial plays are what characterize sexual relationships between a submissive partner and a dominant one. The latter is always in control of the former’s pleasure, especially giving them the go-ahead to orgasm or not. Depending on the conviction of both parties, it could be integrated into erotic feminization or erotic submission.
In a ruined orgasm, the semen comes out from the prostate gland as you would expect, the unique experience triggered by the contractions of the muscles are absent. So, the semen doesn’t spurt out as you have it in the full conventional orgasm. This singular act prevents the brain from releasing the hormones linked to post-orgasmic afterglow, including oxytocin and prolactin. Considering that the dopamine levels don’t drop, the body stays aroused and active rather than relaxed and calm. You can read more on male chastity to know more about the effect of chastity on prolactin and dopamine levels.
Ruined organisms are great for some people and not so great for others. For people that do not enjoy it, it is a frustrating experience, especially if he has waited too long to ejaculate. Conversely, males that find ruined orgasm pleasurable because it highlights the teasing and denial elements that characterize chastity arrangements.
As a keyholder, you must take time to understand how he reacts to a ruined orgasm. This will help you to integrate it into your chastity arrangement correctly. Attaching rewards and/or punishment can be quite helpful. You should also consider adding surprises that do not guarantee him orgasm even when you promise him one. These and many more are possibilities; you only need to explore.
No doubt, mastering the art of running orgasm requires serious practice and dedication on the path of the keyholders. However, this doesn’t necessarily make it difficult or impossible. In fact, most keyholders find it arousing. Why? Doing this makes him stay horning thus making sexual play last longer than usual. While you can continue with the teasing, an alternative is to tell him to please you instead.
The boner will most likely be there, so it wouldn’t be a bad idea to have him give you some post-ruination penetration. There have been reports from men that consistent ruined orgasms make their refractory period shorter. This eliminates the dull moments that come in-between sex breaks.
Even after a ruined orgasm, you can give him another shot at having a full orgasm. If you know your way around it, ruined orgasm is an excellent way of experiencing the legendary multiple male orgasms.
It is not a big deal if you don’t find ruined orgasms your thing. Yes, it is a component ofmale chastity but not a compulsory one. You can adopt other methods of making your man release. For instance, you can stimulate the testicle/nipple instead or try milking (prostate massage). The effects of a ruined orgasm and prostate milking are close – they both make the sperm leak rather than spurt.
Read more onchastity play ideas to know more about how you can make his orgasm more fun.
Article Written by Jett Oxy for oxy-shop.com.
Jett is the owner of Oxy-shop.com, a BDSM insider, a sex educator and writer.
"I always try to explore the confines of the BDSM world and bring valuable insights for new comers joining our adventure"
Phd in related field, father and business owner, Jett Oxy brings you stories and advices for educational and entertainment purposes.