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Adreena Angela - Mistress interview
Every community needs its QUEEN.
Adreena Angela is a dominatrix, educator, and leader in the kink community.
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Website: https://www.adreenaangela.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/InannaLdn
1. How did you begin your career as a Dominatrix/Mistress?
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Adriana Angela says:
Hello, this is Mistress Adriana Angela. I began my career as a dominatrix about seven or eight years ago and sorr of fell into it by accident. I've been on the kink scene for 18 years, modeling, performing, playing, going to clubs. I started kind of doing foot worship parties on the side. It was through doing that that I started to explore dominance and DS play. I realized how much I loved it and how much I learned about myself and my own sexuality through that.
2. What training or preparation did you find most valuable when starting in this profession?
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Adriana Angela says:
As a dominatrix, you don't get a lot of professional training. There are various courses online now and in person, but obviously, you don't get any qualifications. You can't go to school for it. I think shadowing is really important to spend time with other more experienced doms and to learn from them. Also to have subs who have specialities that when you're starting out, you can explore with them so they can help to guide you. I think it's important to have no ego when it comes to that. So that you're being safe when you're exploring new things.
3. Tell us a bit more about “Inanna Studios London”.
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Adriana Angela says:
I am a London-based dominatrix, and I run a studio in North London called Inanna Studio. I've had that, I think, for about four years now. I opened Inanna because there weren't any dungeons in London that I thought represented me, my style, my tastes. I wanted to work in a place that felt authentic for me. I wanted it to be sensual and feminine, and so I opened her up. I use her personally and also allow other dominatresses to work out of her.
4. What misconceptions do people often have about your work, and how do you address them?
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Adriana Angela says:
Conceptions that, well, misconceptions people have about my work, there are many. I think for me, the most frustrating one is people assuming that as a dominatrix, we hate men and we kick men in the balls all day.
Well, there is a lot of ball-busting in my life. There is a lot more to my job than that. As it goes, I actually love and respect my long-term clients. I love playing with them. I wouldn't be able to do this job if I didn't like men. That would seem quite a sadistic do to myself, maschistic.
I think that idea that it's just the brainless beating up of men is frustrating to me because it's actually a lot more complex than that.
5. How do you negotiate boundaries and safe words with your clients? How do you ensure safety and consent in your sessions?
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Adriana Angela says:
Whenever it comes to consent, I think the most important thing is communication. Communication is absolutely key.
When you're talking to a new client in particular, to learn as much about them as you can, to ask questions, to establish not only what they do want, but what they don't want. In my style of work, I don't use safe words a lot because I do encourage open communication throughout a session, but I might check in constantly throughout the session.
I might say, "At what level is this for you? Out of, say, 5-10, how much more can you take?" That sort of thing.
I use safe words when the play involves consensual or non-consent.
Safety, again, is absolutely paramount in BDSM play. Absolutely essential. Therefore, I think learning as much as you can, being aware of the human body, the human mind, before you enter into the play, and yeah, communicating, and communicate.
6. How do you manage the emotional and psychological aspects of your work for both yourself and your clients?
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Adriana Angela says:
You take on a lot of responsibility being a dominatrix, and I think a lot of people aren't aware of that. I think that's a frustration for me. People think it's very much a physical job, but most of the time I'm dealing with people's psychological needs. That can be a lot of responsibility, and as such, it can impact on you and your psychological well being.
I try and protect my clients by establishing firm boundaries, which might not seem like a very loving thing, but to ensure that they know the limits of our relationship and don't have expectations, I think is actually really important and long term is a lot better for them.
I try to communicate with my submissives outside of sessions to make them feel wanted and important, and to check in on them after the fun has ended. But it's really important for me to have my own boundaries to keep myself sane. Otherwise you can get too involved in your clients lives. So I think establishing those boundaries and sticking to them is how I protect myself.
Spending time with other dominatresses is also so important to me. I feed off other women's energies, and it's having a support network, having people to talk to at the end of the day. Swap notes, have a moan if you need to. For me, that's really important.
7. What do you find most rewarding about your profession?
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Adriana Angela says:
That for me, it sounds stupid, but that for me is the people that I get to meet and knowing that I get to help them. When you see that you can impact someone's life, celebrate their sexuality, and maybe the way that hasn't been before, that's really important to me.
I get to meet such a huge variety of amazing and interesting people. It's so rewarding to have that. It's very much those aspects for me. Although, obviously, the travel and the champagne is also a nice bonus.
8.Have there been any challenges or obstacles you've faced in your career, and how have you overcome them?
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Adriana Angela says:
I think there are a lot of obstacles and challenges you face as a dominatrix, and mostly that's how you're viewed and perceived by the world, particularly legally. The limits and abstractions of opening bank accounts, the limits and abstractions of traveling internationally, how dangerous it is for me to go to America, constantly having to switch between banks when they find out what I do and close me down.
Not only is it just difficult to exist like that, but the psychological impact of feeling like you shouldn't exist and people are trying to eradicate you or you're not welcome or worthy, I think over a long time, no matter how strong you are, does have an impact.
The same with social media, it's really just impossible to exist there now. When you see all the terrible things that happen on social media, for sex workers to be the ones who are relentlessly vilified and censored and removed, it makes you wonder what's so wrong with you.
9. In what ways has the perception of BDSM changed in society during your time as a Dominatrix/Mistress?
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Adriana Angela says:
Now, I've been in the BDSM scene for a long time now, as I said, 18 years, much as I hate to admit that, and it's definitely changed. I think people think because they've seen it a lot more on the TV, that things are getting better, and I'm not sure I entirely agree. I would say that it is great that it's been talked about more. It's more open. It's great that people are being exposed to the reality of it rather than it being hidden or misrepresented in the ways that I think it was. But I think just because it's more in the mainstream doesn't mean it's better. When you think of things like Foster Sester and the changes in laws to repress sex work, it doesn't make me really feel like things are particularly improving. But it is great to see more communication, more talk. I think social media has changed things hugely. Before, if you wanted to find a mistress, you'd have to go to the back of a magazine or phone a phone number or write someone a letter. Now with social media, You can get to know a mistress. You can get to know what they're doing in their spare time, what they like, what they look like, their creative identity.
It's made sex workers more into personalities rather than sex workers, which makes them seem more approachable and acceptable. I think the clubbing scene, the kink clubbing scene has changed enormously since I started. I think it's become more about social spaces rather than just clubbing. I think it's more about creating community. It's become more about education, inclusivity. When I started, it was definitely a very white cisgendered spaces. I think there's now a lot more dialog about that. There's more being done to make sure that it's more inclusive for other people. That, I think, has been a really welcome change for me. I'm really excited to see where all that starts to go in the future.
10.How do you think someone should prepare if they are considering seeing a professional Dominatrix/Mistress for the first time?
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Adriana Angela says:
I think be polite is the key one for me. Be polite and communicative. People worry, I think, that they're going to give you too much information. I never get bored about hearing what you like, what you're into, what you don't need. It's also so important. So without giving me a whole life story, be communicative, be polite and respectful. I don't think some men realize that that is how I vet a client.
I appreciate Good manners. Always be on time. For me, on time doesn't mean being early. For me, being early is bad as being late because I will need to prepare for the session. I'll be getting myself ready and into the headspace. So if you turn up 20 minutes early, that's going to be jarring for me. Definitely don't be late. Be on time. Be clean. Take a shower before you arrive. If you're going to do anal play, for the love of God, make sure you're prepared for that. That's not a surprise we want. I think those are fundamentals for me.
11.Where do you see the future of professional BDSM services heading? Have you noticed any trends in the requests or interests of your clients over the years?
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Adriana Angela says:
I think there are trends in BDSM. It's quite hard to notice them specifically. I would say that pegging has become more popular. Not that people didn't always love pegging, but I think pegging has become more talked about and it's become more acceptable for men. I love this. I want all men to be pegged. I think all men should give it a go. I'm really excited to see that moving out of kink and BDSM and just becoming a sexual practice. I think before that would have seen as a kinky practice, and now I think people just see that as part of sex. I'm really excited about that.
I think scarily, AI will change the future of sexual services. I'm not thrilled to see it, but you see a lot of AI bots of sex workers and dominatresses, and people, I think, will start to use those services more rather than seeing real women. I'm not sure how we feel about that.
12.How do you continue to learn and grow in your profession?
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Adriana Angela says:
I think like so many fields, you can never stop learning. That's what I love about it. The more you learn, the better.
I still attend classes, actually. If I see another dom doing a workshop, I'll attend the workshop. I love attending online classes where people talk about what they're doing, different specific practices. It can be really fun to dig deep into something, say, like Electro Play or CBT and learn more stuff. Buying new toys is a great way. I love to buy some new kit that I'm not very familiar with. Bring in someone I and explore and experiment. It really helps you to stay engaged and excited about the work that you do.
Growth for me is about moving out of just sessions and into other avenues. I'm really keen. I do a lot of public speaking and education. I teach workshops, I talk at festivals, I do online classes, interviews, et cetera, and I love that. That's, I think, the direction I want to move in. I want to move more into training other doms, helping people learn about their sexuality and kink. That is the growth I am excited to have. Anyway, I believe these were all of your questions.
I hope this went okay!