Whether you limit your BDSM role play to your sessions or you incorporate them in your everyday life, you and your partner should consider adopting BDSM names. See why:

• They Give You The Right Mindset: Using BDSM names helps you get into your role comfortably. It has the same effect of turning the lights off, putting on some nice music and setting the mood for sex. BDSM names set up the right mood for some BDSM action.
• BDSM Names Help To Reinforce Your Roles:While some people use BDSM names only during a session, others use them even while they are going about their normal lives. For those who use BDSM names outside the bedroom, it helps to reinforce and remind each person of their roles in the relationship even while going about their normal lives.
• Naming Ceremony: You could also choose to organise a special naming ceremony for you and your partner in an appropriate location. Some people even have collaring ceremonies to show their commitment to their partners.
• Big ‘D’ and Little ‘S’:These titles are used in some kinky spaces to indicate if someone is a dom or sub. Subs usually write their names in lowercase and doms put their names in uppercase.

In a dom/sub relationship, the dominant partner’s role is to hold and exercise control which the sub consensually hands through a BDSM contract. Azaria Menezes says “as a dominant, you enjoy the role of being assertive and direct how the scene plays out. As a dominant, your role is to lead, guide, protect, enforce and decide the dynamics of the relationship. But most importantly, your role is to hold the space of trust and exercise control with responsibility”.

The dominant name you call your partner is completely up to you. The appropriate names make your dominant partner feel powerful and in character. Check out some dominant names suitable for females and males respectively:

Check out some sexy names you can call your female dominant partners either during or outside a session:

N.B: Mistress is the female version of Master. However, a lot of people do not like that it depicts human slavery. So if you fall into this category, a better option is ‘Khaleesi’ which has its origin from Game of Thrones. You can also get inspiration from your favourite movie characters, book characters or military titles. 

Names such as ‘Queen’ or ‘Goddess’ are also good choices for dominant names for females because they instil a sense of power and exaltation. You may also add descriptors such as ‘majestic’ and ‘glorious’ to give it a bit of drama. 

Names such as ‘Domina’ and ‘Princess’ are less common dom names for females. If you are looking for something elegant, you should try out Domina. Princess creates a less sense of power than other names.

Dominant names for your male partner are just the masculine form of the feminine names listed above: 

Choosing the perfect dominant name for your dom partner is subjective and might be confusing. Take a look at some general tips you can consider to pick the right one:

• Make it personal: Choose a dominant name for your partner based on what sounds and feels good to you. Ensure the name makes you and your partner feel connected.
• A traditional or unique title? : Decide if you want to call your dom partner a cliché traditional royal title or a unique name. 
• Feel Free to Pick More Than One Dominant Name: It is okay to pick more than one dominant name for your partner. If you are in a location where you do not want people to suspect there is a BDSM connection, you may easily get away with ‘Sir’ or ‘Madam’. Also, you may pick different names for different role plays. 
• Add a Bit of Spice: Adding an initial or his name would make your dominant name more interesting. For example, King James, Queen Melissa, Ms. B. 
  
  

Choosing the right dominant name for your dom partner sets the tone for your relationship. Feel free to try out different names and watch their reactions before sticking to it. A plus is that most of the names can be used during vanilla sex or amongst vanilla people. Just ensure you pick something that works best for you and your partner. Good luck!

Those BDSM name tags are a perfect discreet add on to be reminded who you are. Add to a collar, a keychain or to a piercing for example: