Dom/sub Ideas That Will Make Your Slave Feel Owned - Oxy-shop

05-18-2023 - Written by Jett Oxy - Follow on medium 


IDEAS TO MAKE YOUR SLAVE FEEL OWNED

If you were speaking to a vanilla person, 'ownership' in a relationship might sound wild. But that's what makes the dynamics of a BDSM relationship different!

 

Sub partners love to feel owned. Wondering how to make them feel that way? Then read this article to the end. It will give you 101 Dom/sub ideas to help you make your slave feel owned.

 

There's one thing to note. All the ideas listed must only be carried out after proper discussion and consent by both partners.


Ideas to Make Your Slave Feel Owned

101 IDEAS TO MAKE YOUR SLAVE FEEL OWNED


Take a look at 101 Dom/sub ideas to make your slave feel owned in your D/s relationship;


  1. Make your slave wear slave bells. The constant soft jingling of the bells will constantly remind them of their submission.
  2. When they disobey you, speak to them as you mete out punishment. Also, make them say in detail what they did wrong and why it was wrong.
  3. Make them take off their shoes everytime they enter your house.
  4. Choose the best collar for your slave and make them wear it as often as possible.
  5. Make them call you at specific times, everyday.
  6. Gift them anklets and make them wear one every day.
  7. Choose their hairstyle and go with them to get it done.
  8. Have them display themselves whenever you come into the room. For example, spreaded legs, shirt unbuttoned.
  9. Make them use an alternative title for you besides Master whenever you are around kids or vanilla people. For example, "My Love", etc.
  10. Have rough sex with them. You can even interrupt whatever they were doing to do this.
  11. Have them eat a small portion of a meal they dislike every day for a week.
  12. Make them crawl to bed each night.
  13. Buy them a stuffed animal each time you go out of town.
  14. Choose their outfits everyday.
  15. Make them get your daily wardrobe ready for you the night before.
  16. After every punishment, make them thank you for loving them enough to correct them.
  17. Make them wash and massage your feet everyday after work.
  18. Make them get a tattoo with an image and body part of your choice. 
  19. Respect, but try to push their limits.
  20. Make them tell you what they did that day that you would not have approved of every night. This would make them to be completely honest and also make them conscious of how they can be better each day.
  21. Teach them the position you want and demand perfection.
  22. Reward them by allowing them to please you sexually.
  23. Supervise their workout routine.
  24. Make them kneel and ask for permission to sleep with their dom each night and thank their dom for the privilege every morning.
  25. Have them polish your boots, on their knees and at your feet.
  26. Give them a writing assignment. An example is  “Define Pain - 1000 words”
  27. Make them keep a diary of their journey into submission.
  28. Command them not to ever eat or drink anything in your presence without first asking you if you want something.
  29. Some occasions, keep them on a leash and take them with you on all your activities whether you speak to them or not.
  30. Make them speak only when spoken to.
  31. Reward them by making them cum.
  32. Share them.
  33. Instruct them not to make eye contact with you without your approval.
  34. Make them keep clean and shaven at all times.
  35. Conduct random inspections of their body to make sure they keep themselves to your specifications.
  36. Make them wear a butt-plug under their clothes whenever they go out alone.
  37. Master the art of the meaningful piercing stare.
  38. Give them assignments to read BDSM-related materials.
  39. Test them on the reading assignments, to be sure they learned the appropriate lessons from each.
  40. Make them keep their toenails clean and painted everyday and check to see that they are before bed
  41. Make it their responsibility to put the toys away after play and punishment and to keep them clean and neat.
  42. Let name their favorite scene and toys in your last role play.
  43.  Call them humiliating names such as your slut, your pet, etc.
  44. Make them write a list of the 10 things that make them the most self-conscious or embarrassed.
  45. Work with them and have them do the things on the list (if possible), so that they conquer those.
  46. Pamper them. Wash their body and hair and instruct them not to move as you turn them and move them about.
  47. Hand feed them like occasionally.
  48. Have them eat from a dog bowl on occasion.
  49. Punish them by making them wear a sign to the next public function naming their crime.
  50. Praise them when they please you well.
  51. Do not let them touch you without permission.
  52. Have them write a mantra about their submission, devotion and trust in you and make them say it aloud at specific times.
  53. Make them spend a day naked. (when practical).
  54. Deny them play time or orgasm for punishment.
  55. Punish them by commanding them to be silent while you dish out pain or pleasure.
  56. Make them present themselves like a pet in front of other people.
  57. Have them wear a toe ring.
  58. Tell them one morning that they must cum for you 15 times that day and then write about the day.
  59. Make them wear nipple clamps under their clothing out to dinner but not for long
  60. On your birthday, give them spankings.
  61. Spend time training them how to move gracefully to please you.
  62. Punish them by making them stand in a corner.
  63. Always flog them after completion of a task, even if it is satisfactory. A well flogged slave is a happy slave.
  64. Speak about them as though they were not present.
  65. Punish them by denying them D/s at  for a week; let them do just as they please, don't allow them to serve you in any way, no punishment, no instruction, no play, banning titles of respect, etc. This drives every sub crazy and will make them strive to obey and please you when it is over and they are in their place again.
  66. Don't tolerate anyone disrespecting your slave.
  67. Pet them often.
  68. Have them be a camgirl/boy for a night.
  69. Whenever possible (i.e. no young-uns about), have them sleep in a cage.
  70. Buy them sexy or slutty clothes to your liking.
  71. Teach them things in a patient way.
  72. When you are away, make them masturbate while on a call with you.
  73. If you choose to play with others, make sure your slave knows who is first in your heart and that some things are just for them.
  74. Remember their birthday.
  75. Lead them with a loving fist in their hair.
  76. Give an assigned task every morning and make sure it is done by the day’s end.
  77. Teach them patience.
  78. Videotape your sessions and watch them together.
  79. On long trips, have them wear double dildo latex underwear.
  80. Hand feed them chocolate.
  81. Make them place their regular shoes on a row by the front door. They should be in a straight line with the laces tucked inside, or the buckles buckled. Inspect them periodically.
  82. Keep a list of their transgressions in a little book. Let them slip for a while, thinking you are not noticing, then one day bring out the book and have a day of atonement.
  83. Tickle them just because you can.
  84. Have them be still and quiet while you bring them extreme pleasure. When they move or make a sound, punish them then return to the pleasure.
  85. Keep them locked in their collar when you are home. Collar them on their knees then wear the key to the lock around your neck.
  86. When possible, have them cook and serve your dinner wearing nothing but an apron and collar.
  87. Buy them a Polaroid camera and give them assignments to take pictures of themselves for you in certain outfits or positions, etc.
  88. Remember to kiss and caress away their tears.
  89. Don’t be afraid to bring them to tears, for they are yours as well. 
  90. Put them and the dog on leashes and take them both to the park.
  91. Caress them, whisper into their ear that you love them, nibble on their belly, lick their thighs and make love to them until they cry.
  92. Have them fall asleep with your cock in their mouth and tell them you expect it to be there when you awake.
  93. Fulfill their fantasy occasionally.
  94. Make them understand that 'Master’s word is the last word.'
  95. Make sure that they are safe at all times. When with you and when you are apart (to the best of your ability). Keep their vehicle in good working order, make sure they have emergency money and a cell phone to call for help if needed.
  96. Be consistent.
  97. Take the time to talk to them. Learn their fears, their dreams and fantasies.
  98. When you go out of town, forbid them to shave their genitalia. Shave them yourself when you return.
  99. Specify exactly how they will address you in private and in public.
  100. If you are unsure about what to do with your male bondage slave, put them in chastity devices.

Anonymous on Quora says what she does to her male bondage slave;

 

"Well first I would strip him , and make him wear Chastity , then I will tie him up like a dog and I will make him my waiter to bring the food like drinks for me . I will keep him naked with only Chastity on and make him do laundry like making him to wash my dirty panties , after then I would smoke a cigarette on his face and tease him with my body try to make him on and I would love to see him struggle to get his penis off from the Chastity and his pain and beg me up to unlock it…"


101. If  you are willing to correct them each time they forget until it is a habit, have them refer to themselves as “this slave” or “this boy/girl/pet” etc.

 

Sarapeno on Reddit gives Dom/sub ideas on how your dom can make you feel owned.

 

"...In crowds, rather than him grabbing your hand, have him grasp your wrist firmly and lead you through by that."

 

"Wear something like nipple clamps or ankle cuffs under your clothing where no one can see…"


FAQS


● WHY DO SLAVES WANT TO FEEL OWNED?


The main reason a sub/slave would want to feel owned is to be constantly reminded throughout the day, whether in subtle or strong ways, that they are under the Dom’s/Master’s control. When a slave is reminded of their submission and feels owned, the relationship becomes fulfilling for them.


● HOW CAN I MAKE MY DOM PARTNER FEEL LIKE THEY OWN ME?


The trick to this is to think of yourself as your Dom's 'property' and offer yourself to them. You should only do this to someone you trust, of course.


FAQS


Making your slave feel owned is never a miss when it comes to Dom/sub ideas. However, the place of sanity, safety and consent can never be over-emphasized. Incorporate safe words and don't abuse your slave. Enjoy and stay safe! 


Article Written by Jett Oxy for oxy-shop.com. 

Jett is the owner of Oxy-shop.com, a BDSM insider, a sex educator and writer. 

"I always try to explore the confines of the BDSM world and bring valuable insights for new comers joining our adventure" 

Phd in related field, father and business owner, Jett Oxy brings you stories and advices  for educational and entertainment purposes. 


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